Hello you fabulous people. I need your wise words as yesterday my 18yr old D had a bit of an epiphany.
She has asked me for help to refeeed her as she feels she has dropped too much weight and wants to get back to where she was immediately after we refed her (her previous normal weight for her). She’s identified that although she has been eating a huge variety of foods and overcome a lot of fear foods she feels she’s been ‘compensating’ and overtraining at the gym.
She states that she thinks CAMHS moved her to independent eating way too soon (absolutely did) stating that she was too ill to know better. I’m trying hard not to beat myself up about caving in to this as I know I was a lonely voice against my D, husband and CAMHS at the time - having been told by my H to trust the professionals and that I was seeing too many red flags and needed to calm down. He had the audacity last night to state that we should have been stronger against CAMHS!!!! If I dwell on this I will get very angry at not following my gut and the advice on here from wise owls but I am where I am now.
The point is I seem to have been given a second chance to get things right and don’t want to mess up. I successfully refed her 2 years ago but she was 15/16 then. She’s now 18 and currently on board and compliant. How do I harness this enthusiasm my D has to beat the illness once and for all?
I was able to make her breakfast and she ate it all. I also made her am snack and lunch to take to college which has included things she hasn’t had in years (Dairy Lea Dunkers!!Yey!!!!!) - which she requested!
Any tips and pointers for me to help her through this challenging time? Oh....and of course it’s already a stressful time with mock exams this week and A levels starting in May together with the fact that she’s undertaking EMDR at the moment (which is going very well)