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11 year old son with Anorexia. Constantly sits with his butt on the fireplace hearth and book, computer ect on the floor so he is crouched over. I’m positive this is a behavior but wondering if anyone has experienced this and understands what the purpose is?
Hi there ajm130, 
ED for sure can make them do odd things. Some behaviours are performed in order to keep the calorie burn up. I don't see how this behaviour could burn more calories really. Maybe I am missing something. Some sit on the edge of a seat to keep the muscles taut. Do you think that is what he is doing, rather than sitting on a soft surface? 
Many of these strange behaviours do go away or lessen over time and  with weight gain.
How is he doing overall? I recall he was admitted IP to gain weight as he was medically unstable. I hope he is eating well for you.

How are you doing?
Others will be here soon with their experience.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Hello again and thank you. I don’t think it is about tight muscles. We had the hovering thing for a long time and the excessive movement but that is all gone for the most part. We have kind of run the entire gamut. He started inpatient at Childrens Hospital in Milwaukee for 8 or 9 days just for stabilization. From there he spent 6 weeks IP at Rodgers. They recommended Residential but we were hesitant to go that route. Moved to ERC in Chicago for their php program for a month. He wasn’t quite ready. They also recommended residential. Good, bad, or indifferent we were still hesitant. He was picking up all kinds of further bad behaviors in these programs and we could see him starting to shut down. We brought him home and found a really good psyc that specializes in childhood AN and also found a great dietician with the same specialty. It is actually going fairly well.  Really long ways to go but he continues to increase weight and his meltdowns are now few and far between as opposed to daily. If left to his own devices I’m certain he would revert right back to where we started so we have a lot of work to do yet but all in all things seem to be going in the right direction. He may still end up with further php or possibly even res treatment but we are definitely on hold until this COVID stuff is over. Appreciate your interest and concern🙂
It does sound like a behaviour and I agree it does not sound like a calorie burning one. 

My D felt she didn't deserve anything good whilst ill. As a result she often did things that made her uncomfortable and more miserable - because this is what she felt she deserved. 
Since it does seem like a behaviour, it sounds like it is worth interrupting with distractions, encouragement to do things that don't allow him to sit there. A lot of these behaviours just disappear over time. He may not have any reason he is able to offer you. I hope he is eating well for you. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.