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whenwillthisbeover
I don’t understand why ALL restaurants put the cal count on menus now. We decided to be spontaneous today and go to a restaurant after shopping and the calories are all over the menu. The waiter said that the restaurants are now required to do this in the state we live in (USA). It so frustrating.  This is more of a vent than anything. It’s just so frustrating!!!  
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Scaredmom2019
I hear you... U.S. here too. 
I guess I realize that no matter you can never please all people. The purpose behind it is to make people aware of what they are eating...and many people can benefit from this ( I know that I've made better choices!). But I hear ya.... certainly weren't thinking about AN when they did this. 
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ValentinaGermania
Only thing you can do to avoid that is to check the menue before you go in a restaurant and ask the waiter to not bring a menue, you already know what you want to eat.
It is so annoying, I hear you. Here it is getting worse every year too. Now we get that food label with traffic lights in Europe...I already hate it!
I am glad that my d is in a state where she does not think about that any more but I feel with all the parents in the dark days that have additional fights now that are completely unnecessary!

If there are restaurants in your area that do not do that think about supporting them by eating there!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Enn

I guess I realize that no matter you can never please all people. The purpose behind it is to make people aware of what they are eating...and many people can benefit from this ( I know that I've made better choices!).

Yup! I agree with that.

For us in the ED world this really stinks. Now if you were on a forum for obesity or diabetes you might think this is a good idea.
It is all perspective isn’t it? Where we are in relation to the topic can really affect us.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Human
I've noticed it hear in England....it beggers belief to be honest
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ValentinaGermania
When we go to a restaurant here today I tend to look on the "dish of the day" advertisement or we ask the waiter what he can recommend BEFORE he brings the menue so we do not have these problems.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Seashell
Helpful tips on how to avoid it, thanks.  I cannot find any evidence that calories on menus improves outcomes it people's choices. Has anyone else found any? I found one academic study of a work canteen where post calorie labelling there was a decrease in calorie consumption by 8 calories a week. Is that really that helpful? Instead it seems to me it just makes people feel guilty about and demonises food. 
All I know is we took my daughter to Spain this summer, At the airport in the UK she couldn't eat as the sandwiches were plastered with calorie content and it made her anxious. Personally I don't see how it is helpful when buying a sandwich to know the calorie difference between a ham and cheese sandwich and an egg mayo one. As soon as we were in Spain, where no one knows the calories of anything either in restaurants or supermarkets she ate freely for the first time in a year as the guilt was greatly diminished. Who knows or cares what the calorie content of a plate of grilled sardines or fried calamares is? You know that eating too much fried food every day isn't great and isn't that sufficient? 
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Scaredmom2019
I totally get how hard it can be for those of us wirh AN kiddos. I have never researched the reasons why the calories are listed; I can only attest that personally I make way better choices when I know what I'm eating (I'm also not ED in any way but do care about how I feel in my jeans) 🙂 
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