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So our nightmare continues
As it's summer hols her team are waiting for everyone to return then plan to have her assessed for section because she won't go voluntary. 

I have tried to reach out in every way I know and all I get is denial and anger 

We have had so many rows this weekend and she won't let stuff go it's so bad I locked my bedroom door last night  os I'd had enough. 
. My husband is pissed off with the whole thi g esp as her dad seems to be doing bugger all
. So no one is speaking to me

I hate my life
it really is a horrible journey isn’t it!
sending you strength and courage and a big hug! and know we are all thinking of you

i remember the other night announcing that I am no longer speaking to anyone!!! Because all I seemed to do was cause arguements and chaos

its so hard 

I do hope your d can get the care she needs
hang in there ❤️ 
The one that fights is the enemy. It is so frustrating and so hard to stand. I can only send hugs. It will only get better when she eats and her brain recovers so I can try to give you some hope that this fight is not worthless but I know it is so hard to see that when you are in the trenches and think you hit a new wall every week.
You are a great mum, Pingu, and a ninja fighter. Without you she is lost.

Try to do some self care today. It is needed...
I really hope she gets admitted soon and you have a new start afterwards and a better one and I wish you so much that you see the result of all that pain and tears at least. I really wish that you get that all paid back by her some day in future like I do now. I get all the missed hugs and kisses back. I wish I could send some to you.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Hey pingu- sorry you are having a tough time.  sending a hug.
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
Sorry to hear that things seem to be going badly. When they are malnourished you become the enemy because you are trying to feed them. Keep on working on that team to make decisions, so she gets readmitted soon. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
So 2 days and she's hardly speaking to me
So mad I could scream
It is so sad. But it is ED that does not want to speak to you because you fight him.
Try to show her you love her even if you do not get anything back. I know that this is hard. But every little message you send or every paper with a few nice lines you leave at her bedside or anywhere shows her you are there, you love her and ED can go and die!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
God when will this all end 
And I a cow to say to go dad's??

I'm hated here a anyway 
Sorry life sucks at the moment, Pingu. Can you take a break for a couple of days, visiting relatives on the other side of the country? I told my d on many occasions that if she went back to Izp, I'm visiting family overseas. She never went back, but a friend of mine went to stay at relatives when her d returned to IP and it helped a lot just to clear her head. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww