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Zodietitian Show full post »
toothfairy wrote:
5/ Expect the patient not to like you. If Patient  does not like you, you are probably doing a good job "poking the beast" and standing up to the anorexia.

Good point, and I would take this one step further:  The person doing the day-to-day work of feeding is getting battered in the process and is constantly in the position of being the bad guy.  It is a big help (and kindness) if this bad guy role can be shared with the professionals so that the parent has someone to "blame."


"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
bump for rixi
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Just reposting one of toothfairy's links.


I resent the assumption that there is one 'best' way to eat. In our family 2 people love to eat and can tend towards overeating due to a disorder, 3 do not get strong hunger cues ever (only 1 of them has an ED) so for all of us regular meals in regular amounts (but with increased calorie count for person in recovery) is best. Intuitive eating is not a healthy goal for any of us. Delicious, pleasureable, social, and yes functional meals are our how we stay well.

Warm wishes,

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
YES deenl
Can you be my d physc/dietician??? Please

It’s not rocket science is it? Why do they beat around the bush with all this intuitional eating BS?
Seriously I think all dieticians need to visit an ED IP clinic to see how difficult it is for the patients to eat and then once they do start eating it is still not easy it’s a constant battle everyday
I just don’t get why you would even suggest to eat intuitively too early
What exactly is the rush
Intuitively for my d is not much (duh) might be why she has anorexia
Or now my d is confused and thinks she’s bingeing [frown]
Which she is not but in her mind she thinks she is

Seriously as I said above please can all dieticians actually go and sit with a patient and watch the anxiety /crying and self harming or anxiety induced vomiting and reconsider if you would suggest to eat intuitively until WELL into recovery!!!!!

Alternatively speak with the parents of patients and actually LISTEN to the hell we have been through before you stuff up all our hard work

Rant over