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Warrior1 Show full post »
"I’m still terrified she will start slipping again but I’m sure with time it will get better! Xx"

Warrior1 - this describes my current frame of mine exactly!  On the one hand we've been told that we have to be vigilant for at least two years to prevent relapse but on the other we've been asked whether we're looking too hard for signs of relapse and finding things which aren't there (which to be fair is probably correct).  I too am hoping that it will get easier with time....xx
Hi just wanted to let you all know know that our London trip went pretty smooth. We had some grumpy hungry episodes where I had to pull out the emergency snacks but apart from that we had a great time. Starting to feel there is life after AN!😁. Had quite a poignant moment when D asked me to buy a homeless woman something to eat because she had a sign saying she was hungry so we got her a brownie from a cafe, which the women looked delighted with. I felt a bit emotional after this and was wondering if D often felt very hungry during her ED spell or if she just didn’t feel anything. I didn’t bring it up at the time and don’t think there is any point asking about it now.

Additionally we have postponed cooking school till the new year but I’m feeling ok about it now as when I picked her up from her Scouts this week all the kids were munching into pizza and cupcakes including D, which they had made for their chefs badge! This was after her tea as well!

Mrh74 I’m using the fear to keep me motivated to stay vigilant, one day I’m sure I will be able to relax a bit more!😆
Well that is a great report! So happy for you. 
It is emotional all around.

So glad she is eating at Scouts too!! Great progress!
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
I'm so happy your trip went well, great idea to keep emergency snacks close.

Big high 5 for the pizzas and cupcakes!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
Where is your gold star moment post, warrior1?
Pizza and cupcake after tea! I really do the happy dance here, that is so great!
You are my warrior of the day!!!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Thanks Tina, I think I can stop stressing a little bit now! She had a gain at her appointment today which has followed a small loss, although she had grown 1.5cm so T thought that might have explained the small loss at the time.

Think that loss did worry me as it was the first we had seen since I started aggressively refeeding. So we are still going in the right direction and she has had unsupervised lunch and snack at school for about 6 weeks now which doesn’t seem to have had any impact. I’m starting to feel a little better in myself now too, less tired and a bit less emotional, we are both getting there together!😁 xx
That is so great to hear. Now take care for yourself and use the time to reload your batteries. Keep watching her like a hawk and do all that is needed for relapse prevention and then you will see ED moving out of town!

This will be a totally different Christmas this year!!!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.