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nancytaps wrote:
I agree - the threat of suicide (and we found on her phone yesterday that she has been looking at different ways to commit suicide - and then. confiscated her phone) is very serious.  

Hi nancytaps,

I am concerned that she was looking up information on suicide, this is a sign of active suicidal ideation and needs professional intervention, in my (admittedly non professional) opinion. In your shoes, I would be sharing this urgently with her team. I would expect that she needs an emergency assessment to clarify the danger. 

When my son was suicidal I read many suicide prevention websites so as to have a better idea of the danger signs. Did you know that a sudden positive change of emotions, calmness, relief or affection, can be a danger signal? The person may have made difinitive plans and feel relief or calmness that the struggle to decide is over. This was the case for my son. He was loving and affectionate, in his mind he was leaving us with good memories. He ate freely because 'it didn't matter anymore'. It was horrific to discover what was really going on below the surface but not nearly as devastating as it would have been had he succeeded.

It took us about 3/4 days of searching for the right help before our son was admitted. In those days, we did not leave him alone and one of us slept with him. We removed obvious means of harm; knives, meds, ropes, cleaning products. We locked the doors and windows to prevent him running away. We left the car always fuled and pointing in the direction of the hospital with the keys and our mobiles in our pockets. If he was going to try we were not going to make it easy and we were going to get him to hospital asap. I took the attitude that it was better to over-react than under-react. One thing we did not have was the phone number of the mental health crisis team in our phones, it would have been helpful.

If at any stage you percieve that there is immediate danger I would suggest bringing her to the emergency department and request a psychiatric evaluation.

Our story has a happy ending. Food and more food, time and love has totally eradicated any sign of depression. The suicidal plans, thoughts and self harm eased relatively quickly with improved nutrition.

I do hope that you get increased professional support as soon as possible. 

Wishing you continued strength and courage,

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
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