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memories
My D has made huge progress since her lowest point last summer, just 4 or 5lbs to go to wr, she is happy, easy natured and fun again. She chooses her snacks, eats her smoothies and her meals with no complaint . We still have fear foods to tackle which I have postponed till after xmas. 
She has just been away for 5 days with her dad and siblings. She has only started eating at his again during the last month and he was very apprehensive about how he'd cope as they would be eating out every day. He booked restaurants and she was able to see the menus on line before she went. She was very worried about the eating, she has become very reliant on me to scare off Ed and although she can serve herself well with me there , without me she worries. The trip went well, she built bridges that ed had damaged with her siblings and her dad, she loved the theatre, the shopping and all the other things, she lunch and dinner out every day, she even had an ice cream at the theatre. So all in all very successful on so many fronts.
However her elder sister has just told me that while she was very proud of an d and saw the effort that every meal in a scary situation ( and she had to eat at a normal speed and not shred her food etc etc) took , she felt that without her pushing an d to eat lunch or have snacks she would have skipped them. This instantly makes me panic, at home I don't need to remind her anymore, infact she reminds me if her sandwich etc isnt ready. Obviously this is something we need to work on but am i over reacting...it takes little for me to panic after last summer, and how do i work on this if she is ok at home? 

Mum with AN daughter, together we will beat it.
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Memories, this is just feedback. You knew you had more to go with your D, knowing she is not weight restored, fear foods still to be done. Your D did really well. So much better than only six months ago. You are still on the journey, and more to the point heading in the right direction. It just takes time.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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memories
Feedback not failure...you're right foodsupport , and I need to stop panicking and model calmness !!!! Now that is a tough one!!
Mum with AN daughter, together we will beat it.
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