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Hi, haven’t posted on here in awhile, but I do keep up with how everyone is doing. We are now around 11 weeks into refeeding and things have improved massively, D has gained 6kg, and is beginning to try more fear foods, although there is still slot she doesn’t want. She is much happier in herself and I can now see the really her coming back,although she is now suffering with severe anxiety and has been put on medication for this. After seeing the psychologist a fortnight ago for the anxiety I have been sent the report which he has written for the go. It states that she is in phase 2 of recovery, what does this mean? And how many phases are there? Hoping 1 of you warriors on here will be able to explain this to me.Hugs to you all.xxx
I do not know what your psychologist means with that but be careful if he means phase 2 of FBT. That means slowly giving back control to her and at this point only 11 weeks into refeeding I would NOT start giving back control, that is way too early.
Ask him for that (without your d).
In FBT are normally 3 phases: phase 1 - control of food through the parents, magic plate; phase 2 - giving back control about eating; phase 3 - going back to normal life for whole family and working on probably left psychological issues.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
I agree with Tina about the stages of FBT. Generally this is the only part of treatment for eating disorders that has stages. Other components of phase 2 generally include being more than 90% of expected weight, accepting of the need to gain weight and willing to work with you. 
The description of phases though is at best a rough guide, and many here have concerns that perhaps the phases are unhelpful at all. There is a famous thread about this.  https://www.aroundthedinnertable.org/post/stages-and-timelines-and-how-they-set-us-all-up-to-fail-7917698#gsc.tab=0
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.

Hi Ellenc1,

The thread that Foodsupport_AUS posted is great! It talks about the back and forth of ED quite nicely.
I note from your previous posts she was diagnosed in Oct and it is only 3 months into this for you and her.This is very, very early days. 
Is she at WR for her (her own growth curve prior to ED)? Also for the psychologist I would directly ask them exactly what they mean, to ensure proper communication between you.

It took my D 6 kg more than the first WR and now 10-11 Kg higher than that to see really good stabilisation in weight, caloric intake, and brain changes. 
My D is a bit younger than yours (15 vs 12 at diagnosis now 13.5) and I still do not give much choices. She now knows what constitutes a good snack or lunch or breakfast. But that is from a limited selection that we have established over time. 

So keep on feeding. It takes a long time and I want to say I am so pleased to hear she is doing better!! When we see their true selves coming through, it is such wonderful thing!
I actually think that the ultimate goal is to normalize eating and eating different things without fear.
You are doing great!

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)