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cm72

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I just wanted to know what everyone does to treat themselves while we are in the midst of this hell? Sometimes the smallest things can be of great enjoyment.
I just thought about this because I so look forward to a cup of peppermint tea on a cold day. Just something about it completely relaxes me.
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I started coloring. I do it before and after meals. Most of the time my daughter does it with me. I love the brand new crayons and pencils that are still pointy.
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I enjoy time to myself whenI can get it doing whatever I feel like at that moment, bath, tv, etc to recharge. During feeding sometimes I play solitaire at the table while she eats. It puts the focus elsewhere but I can still keep an eye on her.
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I read, preferably something entirely unrelated to ed!
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A few things I do:

1: exercise- without D knowing, when we were refeeding but not much as I was so stressed. Now I have more time and D understands my needs are different than hers. 
2: reading
3: talk on the phone with a friend about Non ED stuff Or go out with a friend for one hour and talk non ED stuff. 
4: Spa day: pedicure and/or massage
5: get my hair done
6: get H to supervise and take a short nap

What do you like to do? Try to do that or something along those lines. Sit out in the sun? The sun always made me feel better even if only for a few minutes.
I hope you find something you enjoy that recharges your mind and soul.
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scaredmom-all of those sound lovely! I try to get H to supervise but he always screws up. Ugh.  I am loving the weather right now here so you can bet i'll be outside a lot. 
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I just found this article and I felt is was appropriate for this thread.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/shyness-is-nice/201403/seven-types-self-care-activities-coping-stress

The last thing on the list is "join a support group", well I think we all have already done this. [biggrin]
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I hate to say but when you talk about h always screwing up - I have to ask, how can you help him make changes?

I know it is all so hard right now and you want to rely on h and he gets things wrong but this is another area for thinking how to move things forward.

Does he really understand the illness? Does he understand what he needs to do on a practical level to help d?

Just my thoughts looking from the outside and how your disappointment in h may make things worse when you need to be on the page and pulling together. How can you make that happen?

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cm72

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That's a great article-scaredmom. Definitely some good tips.
Melstevuk-As far as my h, I have tried to share books with him, this forum, all kinds of things to let him know the way we are doing this but I think he's just avoiding everything. I'm doing pretty much 100% of everything involving my d. Plus she really hates him right now so it's just easier if I do everything.
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My husband also never got the idea. I would ask him to supervise for 5 minutes on the weekend because I had to do something. When I would come back, I would ask him where my daughter was. And his answer was "she is in the basement". The best was a week ago when I told my daughter she couldn't leave any crumbs from her sandwich. He said "that's hilarious. How could anyone not leave any crumbs?" I somehow managed through refeeding alone. He never wanted to read anything.
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Originally Posted by cm72
I just wanted to know what everyone does to treat themselves while we are in the midst of this hell? Sometimes the smallest things can be of great enjoyment.
I just thought about this because I so look forward to a cup of peppermint tea on a cold day. Just something about it completely relaxes me.


I discovered gardening. I snip cuttings from plants, dip them into hormone powder and stick them into a pot. A couple of week later they start to grow. I used to wish I could do something similar to d ;-) Now, I've planted most of my plants and all that is left is weeding. Actually there is some satisfaction in grabbing a weed and pulling the sucker out of the ground :-))

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D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her. Now working on intuitive eating.
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1. Phone a friend.
2. Meet a friend.
3. Come here on ATDT.
4. Have some nice time with hubby [biggrin].
5. Eat without stress.
6. Read a book.
7. Have a bath.
8. Have a massage.
9. Go to the hairdresser.
10. Find a new hobby.

The order is random [wink].

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