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Tica
id appreciate advice please. I’ve been aware of my d hiding food and uncovered little stashes if half eaten snacks in her bedroom- so far I’ve discreetly cleared them up and told family &staff who supervise her snacks & meals but not discussed it with d as don’t want her to be more devious with her hiding. Kept checking usual places and no more food. However just looked under her bed and found a black bin bag full of stuff!!! Yuk! Some I can see are recent and meant to be eaten last week with a new ‘supervisor’ who she won’t see again anyway, but there’s just so much, I am shocked. My instinct is to put it in the bin and it tidy up, but I just don’t know what to do to help her stop this. Her CAHMS T is not available today to talk to about this. ...
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Mamaroo
It is not pleasant finding these 'packages'. I would say your reaction depends where she is in terms of recovery. If she is eating well otherwise, I would wait for a non meal or snack time and tell her calmly what you had found and that this behaviour is not normal and must stop.

When my d was WR I sometimes found food in her cupboard. She told me that there was a birthday and cupcakes were eaten at school and that she didn't have space for the muffin. I told her not to hide it anymore and just to eat it at the next meal, which she did in the future. 

It takes a while for them to be normal around food again. You are right that she was not supervised carefully enough and now you can close that loophole. Can you take over more of the supervision? Make sure there are no serviettes or tissues or any trips to the bathroom during or after meals.

As for cleaning it up, I just binned it myself and told her that food in her room would attract bugs, spiders or whatever critter she fears 😉.
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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tina72
Tica wrote:
id appreciate advice please. I’ve been aware of my d hiding food and uncovered little stashes if half eaten snacks in her bedroom- so far I’ve discreetly cleared them up and told family &staff who supervise her snacks & meals but not discussed it with d as don’t want her to be more devious with her hiding. Kept checking usual places and no more food. However just looked under her bed and found a black bin bag full of stuff!!! Yuk! Some I can see are recent and meant to be eaten last week with a new ‘supervisor’ who she won’t see again anyway, but there’s just so much, I am shocked. My instinct is to put it in the bin and it tidy up, but I just don’t know what to do to help her stop this. Her CAHMS T is not available today to talk to about this. ...


So big question for me is where does the food come from.
Is it hidden food that she should have eaten? Then your supervision has loopholes you need to close. No eating in her room without anyone SEEING the food going in.
Is it food she bought herself and collected it? My d collected a lot of food she would like to eat but AN did not allow it. If it is still good and packed I would put it into the cupboard and serve for next snacks.
I am not sure wether the point telling her that you found it or not. Maybe it helps just to announce that IF you will find hidden food anywhere you will add the missed portion to the next meal 🙂.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Tica
Only two items were unopened which I can reuse, the rest was what she should have eaten, half a bar here or a bit of bagel there etc. smuggled away. It is either her dad or grandmother who supervise all lunches eaten at school and I supervise all meals at home. A member of support staff supervises her morning snack at school and we have exchanged numerous emails on this subject recently to try to close the loophole. After a setback in her progress towards WR, I’ve said to d that she will have to stop attending school if her health deteriorates again, but next medical check is not for another 3 weeks, which seems like an eternity when I’m not sure in which direction things are going and the food I thought was being consumed has not been. 
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scaredmom
Are you able to figure out how it got into her room without it being seen? That is the first step in closing loopholes. 
She cannot be alone with any food intended to be eaten.
some kids do “chipmunk”the food so having her drink after a meal may help. All eating and drinking has to be supervised and you may need to frisk her and check mouth after eating.
this has to stop. And I would seriously consider keeping her home from school now. she has shown she she does not feel safe and you need to keep her safe and that is what I would tell her.
There is no need to wait for her to see the team in three weeks. I would call them and let them know and still keep her home.
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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tina72
Tica wrote:
Only two items were unopened which I can reuse, the rest was what she should have eaten, half a bar here or a bit of bagel there etc. smuggled away. It is either her dad or grandmother who supervise all lunches eaten at school and I supervise all meals at home. A member of support staff supervises her morning snack at school and we have exchanged numerous emails on this subject recently to try to close the loophole. After a setback in her progress towards WR, I’ve said to d that she will have to stop attending school if her health deteriorates again, but next medical check is not for another 3 weeks, which seems like an eternity when I’m not sure in which direction things are going and the food I thought was being consumed has not been. 


So would you say it was food from the meals at school or at home? Is she hiding food at the table in longsleeves, pants pockets, hoddies? Then ask her to wear a t-shirt and leggings for meals. Some parents even told them they would need to wear a swim suit for meals if they do not stop hiding food (and as wearing a swim suit is something they mostly fear more than the devil that worked).
If it is food from school I would think about keeping her at home so she sees that hiding food in school has consequence not to be allowed to go there.

They can be really tricky. A girl in my ds IP hid food directly under the eyes of the nurses. The other ED kids noticed it but not the "professional".

Closing those loopholes is very important, she must see that not eating is not possible...

I like Mamaroos idea of telling her that food in her room does attract spiders 🙂.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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