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Torie
Enn wrote:
The purpose of this was thread was, to maybe, just a little provide a refuge from this frenetic time.  A beacon of light? Something to look forward to?

Enn, I think an "upbeat" thread can bring people a welcome bit of lightness in times of trouble.  A few years ago, we had a thread where people would post inspirational quotes and funny memes; it got a good bit of traffic.  If I could remember the name of that thread, I would post a link.  You may wish to start such a thread.

I was not sure about posting on this thread because 1) the pandemic per se is not especially pertinent to ED treatment and 2) I am not a good candidate as someone to provide upbeat posts with all the many relatives I am worried about.  (I see the value; I am just not the right person for that at the moment.)

If you ask "What are you doing today?" the response you will get from me is: "Trying to figure out how I can help our healthcare professionals."  That may or may not be the type of response you or others want here.  

Before signing off on this message, I want to add a final (off-topic for an ED board) note:  I have compiled a number of links to Covid 19 information (up-to-date statistics, videos, mathematical analyses, etc.).  If anyone would like to talk about that, please write to me off-list.

I hope everyone is doing as well as possible.  Hugs to all xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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mommiful
Ok, on a lighter note, my daughter recommends gently twirling in place with arms slightly extended until you get just a little dizzy and break out laughing at the silliness. No music required. Best done with one or two other people. Try not to bump into each other. Or try to bump into each other. Either way. Bet you can't keep from laughing. Guaranteed to raise the spirits. 

Unfortunately, not recommended for anyone prone to dizziness, fainting, or nausea. 
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Vicky2019
I have invited my friends to a virtual family quiz night - I have managed to distract my daughter with the devising of questions, finding photos for the picture round and testing out facebook live to see how we can do it. Fingers Crossed it works!
We are also doing board games and jigsaws. And i am ordering a pool table so we can learn to play that too
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Vicky2019
So just to explain, I think it is a good idea to have some light-hearted threads as well as more serious ones because this is going to be a long-haul problem and we need to smile sometimes . And also because a lot of us have been 'entertaining' our children with various activities that may not be available now - shopping/cinema/bowling/short walks outside and we could do with extra ideas. My kid can't do the online-exercise classes, the fitness challenges, the dance routines so it's good to see what ideas other people are coming up with!
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Foodsupport_AUS
I love the family quiz night idea. I know my D and her friends would love this as an idea. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Enn
@Vicky2019,
We have a pool table that converts to a ping pong table .
The kids love it! 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Vicky2019
I love the family quiz night idea. I know my D and her friends would love this as an idea. 


we've got 30 teams signed up! 
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teecee

I’ve been clearing the cupboards that needed clearing last year and decluttering. I’ve also been doodling and adding positive messages to my doodles before posting online. They seem to be going down well 😊
ive actually been getting more organised in batch cooking and am ahead of the game with this at long last. 

Im actually getting active at last after 2 years of zip really. I’m doing yoga everyday, walking, cycling but observing social distancing (luckily we are semi rural so not many out) and doing 20 days of meditation on Facebook live....,very relaxing! 

 

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Foodsupport_AUS
My daughter and her friends have even managed to play board games via Zoom. Last night Pictionary. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Enn

I love these ideas!
A friend and I are ‘meeting’ for coffee on FaceTime! 

teecee posting positive messages at this time is a lovely idea. It is thoughtful and kind! 

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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MKR
When things feel gloomy (especially after listening to reports from different countries), I write down the main reasons to stay positive (my kids being the no.1 reason), adding more every time I revisit the list.

I also go for the old tip of naming the achivement of the day before going to sleep. That inspires me to think of more. 

Clearing cupboards sounds great and will try that over the weekend. Funny how material things devalue when health is priority! Easier to let go of nicknacks.

My book collection is finally coming to the front. Let's hope my kids will be tempted to discover them, especially some great classics.
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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deenl
I am reading messages from friends and family. Like many of you, I am keeping in closer touch with them in these worrying times. 


By way of a good morning, my mum sent me a quote from the Irish poet Seamus Heaney that is so lovely I wanted to share it with you all.

"If we winter this one out, we can summer anywhere"

This applies to refeeding as much to the current worldwide situation.

Warm wishes,

D

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Enn

I love that deenl! 

So true!💐

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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MKR
Lovely words, beautifully put, @deenl (and Seamus!).
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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