Furthermore, we learn that we are carrying out these insane eating, starving, exercise, and purging practices in obedience to a deceptive, immensely powerful voice within our own minds. This is the voice of a disease that is chronic, progressive, and potentially fatal. The first action of this cunning and baffling disease is to cast us into a state of unawareness, in which we fail to recognize that we are in mortal danger when we carry out its insane commands.
We learn that the payoff we receive from this disease for our obedience to its demands is nothing more than a mirage: an illusion of control over our lives and our future. We learn that the disease’s principal weapon is overwhelming and paralyzing fear, and that it holds us in its lethal grip by inducing profound guilt and shame within us. The disease lies to us at every turn. It even convinces us that we are to blame for our own sick condition, that we freely choose to do the insane things we do, and that we are unlovable.
In this circle of healing we learn, one step and one moment at a time, to awaken to the truth about our disease, to recognize its lies, to see how it entraps us, to trust in a Higher Power who loves us unconditionally, and to turn our will and our lives over to this loving Power.
As we recover, we come to experience this Higher Power—the Spirit of life itself—at work within us, empowering us to live without any illusion of control. We also learn to truly own our lives and to take charge of ourselves in a way that had not been possible before.
Our program is deeply spiritual, but not allied with any religion. We have found it applicable to our healing journey regardless of our religious beliefs, for we know that our eating disorders are primarily mental or spiritual diseases, although they also comprise a physical component. More specifically, we have a mental obsession that compels us to restrict our food and/or to binge and purge, coupled with a physical “allergy” in our bodies that ensures we will continue restricting or bingeing and purging, once we have begun.
In terms of "scientific" treatments available for adults suffering with bulimia, the FBT sounds like a great program.
UCSD recommended DBT for my daughter for "skills". But they told me If we wanted any further information, my daughter must contact them directly, because my D is an adult. That felt off-putting, but I understand.
Intuitively, they don't sound like a good fit to me, for our situation. I was told (by one of the recovered bulimics I talk with) that UCSD has a lot of turnover of their clinicians, which is unusual in the industry. She said that is not a good sign.
Regarding your other posting in the other thread about how the disease impacted and destroyed your daughter's health: I found that absolutely heartbreaking and my heart goes out to you for having gone through that. I am also grateful to hear that there has been some essentially, miraculous healing in some areas too. That is truly a blessing and a relief. It gives me, and many other people...HOPE.
It made me feel that I have to continue be very vigilant, very aware about what's going on and constantly educating myself and talking to people about this disease.
Tonite I will listen in on the ABA - 8PM eastern time (USA) PHONE MEETING to see what else I can learn and to see how bulimics think, behave, prevent relapse, and recover.
I doubt there there is any "scientific" program in the world, whether it be UCSD, Renfrew, FBT, ACT or DBT, that would allow a concerned parent to talk with the patients (either current or former) to see how things are going. Would they allow me access to learn what is working or not working with the patient? I doubt it... legal liability...privacy...HIPAA etc. would prevent it.
But ABA and OA gives me the ability to actually speak with real survivors. I repeat, survivors of a disease that reeked the most horrific damage to their bodies...from teeth, to heart, to gag reflex, to stomach, attempted suicide, and worse. They came out of it...and I want to know their journey. I want to know how they sustain a normal and productive life, and ultimately freedom from the yoke of an eating disorder.