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Pingu
So she is on home leave and I’ve grown a pair and stopped being so nervous around her.
ive stood up to ed and refuses to negotiate or talk alternatives 
shes had jacket potato with bens and cheese . Add in butter oozing out
sge freaked but a firm you re eating it had her eating.
im aware it’s not that easy but I felt today like she was looking for me to take the lead
for once I felt in control of things
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scaredmom
Pingu,I applaud this moment. Good for you and her!!
Yes she needs you to take the lead. Be prepared (I am sure you already know this), for battle. 
XXX
Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Kali
Pingu, so happy to hear that! Yes this is how it starts to turn around, when you become empowered to be able to direct her and expect her to eat, along with the help she is getting at the treatment center. 

Keep going!

Kali
Food=Love
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Foodsupport_AUS
Wonderful.The weird thing about courage is that as you succeed more, you will gain more courage. So pleased her visit was a success.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Ellesmum
Great news Ping, well  done. 
I don’t think people who haven’t stood in our shoes could ever really understand how much courage is needed to require our kids to eat.  

I hope it continues well x
Ellesmum
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Pingu
Thanks all
For the first time I saw the old her....she had makeup on so didn’t look so pale and she was laughing and larking about.
we had such a positive day just playing cards and relaxing together it was fun. I never thought I’d say “fun” again.
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Ellesmum
Pingu wrote:
Thanks all
For the first time I saw the old her....she had makeup on so didn’t look so pale and she was laughing and larking about.
we had such a positive day just playing cards and relaxing together it was fun. I never thought I’d say “fun” again.


I’m thrilled for you, we start to think we’ll never hear laughter again don’t we? 
I really hope you can build and build on this positive start, onwards and upwards x
Ellesmum
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Oct18
Pingu, I am so pleased! Great news!
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tina72
Pingu, that is really great, I do the happy dance here for you. Give her that leadership she needs now and show her you can help her and be strict about all food things and have a great time with her with non-food things and you will see her coming back slowly.
You are doing great, you are my warrior of the day!!!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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teecee
Well done Pingu. It’s great when we realise we do have the skills to do what it takes. Keep practising them and don’t give up. 
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Mamaroo
Wow, that's great! I'm happy that her mood is getting better as well and that her old self is come out. Thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her.
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tina72
Don´t you like to post that in the Gold star moments thread?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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mumofone
Great news well done!
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