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GMM
Hi,

Struggling with my 16 year old son and his ability to gain weight.

This is all very new to me and I am open to everything and anything.

Has anyone used and suppliments that can be added to food, so th cold me doesn’t increase but the calorific content does. Thinking of something that can be added to sauces which will then mask the taste of the supplement.

I’m in th uk, so needs to be something that can be obtained in the uk.

Thanks.
GMM
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Torie
I think Complan is available in the UK.  This thread may help sort it out.

Best of luck with this huge challenge!  Please feel free to ask all the questions you like. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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ValentinaGermania
Hi GMM,

a very warm welcome from Germany and great that you found us here! This forum is a lifesaver, you will get great support and help here.

Do you already have a diagnose? Do you know how much he will need to gain? Is he restricting a lot or can you already serve normal food?

Sorry for so many questions. Please give us some more informations where you are at the moment.

I refed my 17 year old d last year and I added butter, cream / double cream and oil to everything possible. Canola oil/rapeseed oil is best one because it has nearly no taste and smell and disappers if you stir it. You can use it to power up even joghurt, applesauce or smoothies. There are a lot of high calorie recipes here in the forum. I remember somewhere a recipe of 1000 calorie muffins...

Try to sneak that in without him seeing it so he can eat it better. I cooked when my d was asleep or in school and did freeze all portions.

Another possiblity is a powder called Complan that is available in UK or a little cup called Benecalorie (by Nestle) which is only sold in US but you can buy it via Internet. It has 330 calories with 44 ml and can be added to rice, soups, sauces...

Please come here and ask your 1 million questions.

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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ValentinaGermania
Hey Torie, two hearts that beat with the same rhythm...you have beaten me again! [wave]
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
Thanks guys.

He is at 83% weight to height and looking to get to probably 110%. He was diagnosed anorexic about 8 weeks ago, and he weight less now.

Complain sounds a good idea, just need to check for gluten, he is gluten intolerant which doesn’t help, I suppose.

It’s difficult, and trying to hide the calories, doing the double cream, lots of oil and the like.

Thanks again.

GMM
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Enn

Hi GMM, 
I welcome you too!

I hope you find support and information that you need to help your child. 
Glad to hear you are adding in calories anyway you can. 

Please ask all the questions you have. Many have been exactly where you have been and can offer support, advice to help.

So glad you are here!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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GMM
Thanks.

Trying our best, and I understand it’s going to be a long journey.

Goal 1 is to get to Christmas, without too much drama.
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workingthrough
What foods is your son eating now? Maybe if you share those we can help brainstorm ideas of ways to add to them.

We didn't get good gain until we added smoothies/shakes each day. It's a long process. Let us know how we can help and support you as well - you'll get there. Keep taking a step/moment at a time. You're doing great.
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Mcmum
Morning from the uk too and welcome. We also have a boy and also found that a morning smoothie was the big game changer in terms of weight gain. Would he drink one? Sometimes if you present it before they're fully awake it can be done!
We essentially used the most calorific ice cream we could find - Hagan Daas for instance - full fat milk, whipping cream and honey. We found that even with a young boy, the calories going in had to be massive to reverse the weight loss and I know teenage boys expend a lot of energy just existing. Does he over exercise? What will he eat?
Lots of advice here from people who are or have been in the thick of it so do ask away. We're in the UK too and our camhs said they are seeing so many more boys these days.
Getting to Christmas or even the next meal is a great goal xx
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GMM
The problem we are having is snacks. He eats dinner and lunch mainly without any problems.

CAMHS have been good, but can be very judgemental.

He is on bed rest, so no exercise, only time he leaves the house is for appointments.

Going to try the complan, into his smoothies and anything else we can.

Thanks for the support so far.

GMM
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ValentinaGermania
What do you mean CAHMS is judgemental? They should not blame anyone for this disease...

Is drinking easier than eating? Than try to have smoothies or milkshakes for snacks. You can add cream or canola oil to it.
What about breakfast? Porridge is great to sneak in...
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
I don’t live with my kids but live next door, so I see them daily and have been spending more time at theirs recently for obvious reasons. I feel that CAMHS are judgemental about my relationship with the kids mum (which is excellent btw).

Snacks are smoothies and buscuits, or something similar.

Breakfast is porridge and banana
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ValentinaGermania
Try to not engage in what they say or think about your relationship with your kids or their mum. YOU know what is true and what is right. You did not make a mistake that lead to AN. You are not the cause of that disease. Let nobody tell you something different.

What is your problem with the snacks? Does he refuse them? What are you doing then?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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ValentinaGermania
Maybe it helps you to read the posts of KLB. They have also a boy or your sons age and they recently took him home and are refeeding with 5000-6000 calories a day so they have great ideas how to add something.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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GMM
Thanks.

He struggles and says he can’t physically eat any more. He eventually gets there but it’s stressful for everyone
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GMM
Thanks, I’ll look for posts from klb and read through.
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ValentinaGermania
That is normal. Their stomach system has shrunk and he will feel full on a small amount of food. The secret is to get in ONE more spoon than he wanted to eat and the next meal 2 spoons so you increase portions slowly and the stomach can grow again.

Try to have a good amount of calories on a small amount of food. If you make a fruity shake with ca. 400 ml fruit and juice in the blender you can add up to 100 ml rapeseed oil and it disappears in the blender. You get 1000 calories extra with 2x 250 ml drink this way.

The stress gets less by time and he will feel more comfortable with eating and food in a few weeks.

In some cases it helps to wake them up one hour before normal time with a smoothie in the hand and just say "drink that" and let them roll over again. ED is often sleepy in the morning and very agitating in the evenings.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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debra18
I put crushed almonds into everything
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