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Frazzled
Need advice for weekend trips and vacations. It has been almost a year from when we started refeeding my daughter and we will be taking a trip this weekend and looking forward to vacation in a month. What have some of you done to make this easier for everyone? Do you take the blender if a daily shake is given or find one at a food place that may have fewer calories? Have you seen a big difference in behavior of calories are slightly lower for a weekend? 
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debra18
We went on a few vacations. I have a 16 ounce blender and I bring it with us. Or mix by hand the ice cream and heavy cream together. I also have a Betty crocker pizza maker that I travel with to make breakfast. Is your daughter flexible with the schedule? My daughter used to need to have meals exactly the same time everyday . This was hard on family vacations. She woke up early and woke everyone else up early in the process. And once we were driving and it was the time for supper and we had to pull over to eat and it was difficult. I did switch  to one shake a day instead of two but other than that kept generally the same schedule and amount of calories. 
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Enn
We took a blender for her smoothies and did have a proper kitchen. I did get some groceries for breakfasts and snacks for d. That was helpful and she felt safe. 
She was able to go to restaurants as I coached her. For my d, being away was a bit stressful overall. The different place  and the anxiety of eating out a bit. We kept up the plan of three meals and three snacks so there was no real difference, I think, with her caloric intake at that time. 
It is nice to get away and I hope you have a lovely time.
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Mcmum
Hi, we went away at Easter and I basically took loads of the normal high fat foods and snacks.  I primed the people we went with so all meals were adapted and because eating was a little more erratic, I had an endless supply of snacks in my bag that I kept casually passing in my son's direction.  We managed fine but I find that if he goes a day that is light on the calories it causes repercussions so forearmed and all that 😀
We are 10 months in so similar to you.  I would say, go prepared and don't let up the vigilance.  My son isn't great at eating out so we didn't.  It depends on how relaxed your daughter is around food and whether she can make good choices /help herself to food. Had to make sure someone was up early to get a big breakfast in and also had to deal with comments from other children along the lines of : "why do you have full fat milk? Isn't that really bad for you? ?" 😣
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ValentinaGermania
Frazzled wrote:
Need advice for weekend trips and vacations. It has been almost a year from when we started refeeding my daughter and we will be taking a trip this weekend and looking forward to vacation in a month. What have some of you done to make this easier for everyone? Do you take the blender if a daily shake is given or find one at a food place that may have fewer calories? Have you seen a big difference in behavior of calories are slightly lower for a weekend? 


We did not take the blender but we took some safe food for emergency cases (but never needed that looking back).
Try to stick to meal times and snacks like glue. No negotiation. Try to get into her as much as possible and just get through. A weekend is no problem. They do not lose too much in 2-3 days. For the vacation I would take the blender if possible and check some restaurants before. If you have a normal kitchen there and are able to cook that would be great. If there is a freezer could you bring some prepared meals with you?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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workingthrough
We’ve taken a few trips. We took the blender and kept that smoothie consistent. We tried to keep ~2 meals (breakfast/lunch) “easier” foods that s knew well and dinners were always a bit more challenging: new restaurants, etc. 

The trips were really good opportunities to practice “normal”. I’ll be honest and say it’s not easy. Although, I think they are really important. Traveling has gotten easier each time. We, too, have a longer trip planned this summer that I’m a little concerned about already. 

Three-four days have been just fine for s. We did a week over spring break and by day 4-5 it was harder on him. Looking back, I don’t think his calories were high enough w/activity. 

Rest up before (if possible), and keep an open day or two after (if possible) to recoup and get back on schedule.

We took a bunch of familiar deserts as well for s (we were vacationing with extended family), to make sure that was covered each night without any misses. 
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Foodsupport_AUS
When we first went away with ED, I tried to make sure all food was the same as usual. We didn't do smoothies, but all snacks same as home, all meals similar to what was at home. The goal of going away early on was not to challenge ED but to have a change of location. As she got better, this was much less of a concern and we really didn't do anything different from our normal vacations, different food, different times. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Frazzled
Thank you all so much for your responses. All were very helpful and insightful. Debra18 the Betty Crocker pizza maker sounds very useful for trips. Looking into buying one. Thanks!
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debra18
Yes it's great. So many things you can make with it. The pancakes and pizza come out great. And we buy small pizza doughs, add sauce and cheese, and roll them up and cook them like buritos. Everyone loves it and it takes 5 minutes
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Frazzled
That’s sounds awesome! Thanks for the ideas. It’s  going to be a must have to take on trips along with the blender. Who knew you could do all of that with a pizza maker 😄
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