F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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My husband is a general manager of a fast food restaurant.  One of his employees is a sweet young woman who is a friend of the family's.  Vale's dad was very concerned about this young woman when she returned home from uni, as she had gotten incredibly thin and had some ED behaviors.  I took her out today to talk with her a little bit.  I praise God that she was very honest with me and revealed that she has some very serious eating disordered thoughts and behaviors.  If she isn't dx with anorexia I would be surprised, that's how bad of shape she's in.  I sat with her and listened and encouraged and talked with her for about two hours.  I tried to be gentle but very firm about what will be her road if she doesn't stop her current path.  I left the conversation relieved that she's willing to get some help and talk to her parents about it, but I am exhausted and have a migraine.

To see this wonderful, beautiful, talented young woman suffering from this horrid beast is heart breaking, but knowing I know what the road will be and her mother does not yet even know that her daughter is eating disordered is crushing.  I know what awaits this family and my heart is so so burdened.

I thank my God that we had the sensitivity to see, it is a gift of blessing from our journey.  But I am so saddened that yet another one is suffering.
I'm just thankful she had wonderful, caring people like you and your husband, who know ED from the inside, around to extend a helping hand. Imagine if no one like you had been there. It is heartbreaking, but every cloud has a silver lining. She was willing to listen and to admit she needs help - that's a huge step forward thanks to both of you!
New Mexico USA | Step-Daughter dx. AN on 10th birthday (2012) | Still fighting back

The most beautiful people I've known are those who have known trials, have known struggles, have known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. - Elisabeth Kubler-Ross 

You were obviously 'meant' to be there for her and will hopefully be the driver that enables her to seek effective treatment. You are one awesome mom, you know, my dear ValesMom, with everything you do. Awesome and so very, very strong. Please do keep us posted on this story.

Bev Mattocks, mother of 24-year old male DX with RAN 2009, now recovered. Joined this forum in 2010 - it was a lifesaver.