We’ve finally done it. Our girl has left for college. H and I remarked last night to one another that there were times that we feared she would never make it. There were times when we thought she would die, or run away from us and never come back.
We think she developed ED about a decade ago, at the age of 8. We found FBT at the end of 2013 (aged 16) and thankfully it worked for us when other treatment paradigms had failed.
So now our happy, excited girl has gone into the big world.
Is she ‘cured’? ‘normal’? Well, none of her classmates waited a year after high school and then had a minimum weight before they could leave home. None saw a doctor (who would email her parents) before they saw their accommodation. None of those kids had a weigh-in 3 days after arriving. I’m guessing few of them talk to their mothers about carbs and protein, calories and weight in quite the same way we do.
She knows that if she loses weight we will fly down and bring her back home. From the time we began to really understand ED’s, we have always put her heath first above all else. Money spent, time invested, education be damned. Nothing is more important than her health.
We are filled with hope and confidence, now, however. She knows that otherwise we never would have let her go. That gives her the confidence to believe she can do it. And maybe that gives her the strength to fight any residual ED she might have, knowing that succumbing to his siren call means giving up the exciting future she has ahead.
I’m not writing this to brag, though I am immensely proud of her.
I’m writing to let everyone in the trenches to know that it is possible to dig your way out, one meal at a time.
And I’m writing to offer suggestions about how to send an ex-ED kid off into the world. This isn’t the only way, and we don’t yet know if it will work, but things look pretty good right now.
D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old.