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For those who did this program, do you think it was worth it? Do you think it would be beneficial to our family who have been doing FBT for 6 months, our daughter is close to being weight restored but still need help bumping the calories up? Did your child improve greatly afterwards?
Hi cm72,

Here are some threads with people's stories.



Warm wishes,

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
I guess I should have searched ahead of time. Thanks so much!
From what I have seen on the forum over the  past 2years, that is a great program.
i do hope you are seriously considering it!

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
If I had lived in the US 2 years ago I would have been there.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Below is a recap of our experience that I posted a month or so ago.

We recently did the week intensive at UCSD. It was definitely a turning point for us. We have very limited resources where we live with no FBT therapist in our state at all. This week of being surrounded by families going through the same torment as we are enduring helped us feel so not alone. They do a very good job of really helping the parents understand what is going on with their child- emotionally and physically. They spend a good deal of the week with the kids in separate group time from the parents. I think our d also benefited from spending time with kids who really could understand what she was dealing with.

A word of caution though- at the time we went, our d was eating fairly well. A good bit of time there is spent with meals and snack time being observed by the UCSD team. They coach the parents and kids through the process. Since we had already made a ton of progress on our own with this, we spent a good deal of this time eating in the cafeteria or on our on. We quickly realized that our d being around the kids struggling to eat actually set her back some- almost like the ED was telling her she should be doing the same. This resulted in nightly panic attacks from whole the entire week we were there. She also began telling us that week that we were trying to “make her fat.” She has never said anything like this before. I suspect she picked that up from group time from the other girls. Mid week I was getting nervous we made a bad decision by attending.

The team is excellent and looking back I see it was a great decision for us to attend. It was rough but once returning home we could see the impact it had. It strengthened my h and me and really helped my d come to terms with what we were dealing with. We are light years from where we were prior to attending. D had a terrible exercise compulsion. The team were adamant that we had to get it under control or she would need outpatient care. We took them at their word, took their advice on how to tackle it and have come a long way in getting it under control. Also, once home for a couple days, the new habits d picked up from group time seemed to go away thankfully along with the nightly panic attacks.

All in all, I can’t say we learned anything that I had not already found through the hours of forum and book reading, podcast listening...etc that I spend so much time on. However, being surrounded by their expertise and having their acknowledgment/approval of the plan we had in place gave us great confidence to continue to tackle this on our own at home. Well worth the time and monetary investment- highly recommended.                  
Edengirl-that's exactly what I needed to hear. It sounds like you are in the same stage that we are and I was nervous of her being around kids who are in the beginning stages or having a lot of trouble would set us back. It's definitely something to think about. Thank you.