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gobsmacked_US
Tumblr is taking a stand against self-harm postings (including ED-related). I don't know if it's enough, but it's something: http://staff.tumblr.com/post/18132624829/self-harm-blogs
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perdido
I think it's a great start! My non Ed D is a tumblr fan and she says she sees these posts and is so sick about them. Good for tumblr for taking a stand!
Slow and steady
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UKMom
This is a good start!  I recently became a fan of Pinterest which is similar to Tumblr - have emailed them this policy in hopes they will adopt the same.  Both of my daughters are fans of this site so this is encouraging!
Our mantra: "Life Stops until you Eat!".  Full recovery is possible; step by step; bite by bite. (D diagnosed at age 15, full w/r obtained one year later, maintained and in full recovery since May 2012)
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EB
Have to say, having done some recent mini research into various blogging platforms (for unrelated issues), I quite liked Tumblr.  I'm really impressed that they are taking this approach to a difficult issue.  Tumblr is not a minnow, by any means, but they are certainly not yet one of the big fish in the pond and probably not as highly staffed as some - I hope the more established crew are taking notice of what the up and comers are managing to give some responsible thought to in spite of not being overly resourced!
Erica, UK
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gobsmacked_US
Good idea, UKMom. I will do the same for Pinterest. I love Pinterest, but they do have a lot of the same issues as tumblr.

EB, I would say Tumblr's pretty big among teens and 20-somethings.
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EB
Sorry gs, I know that they are making major inroads into the microblogging world - I only meant that I believe they haven't taken on much outside investment or fallen prey to the advertising dollars etc yet, meaning they are ploughing their furrow without the support of the big bucks that all that could bring them - and it looks like they are doing a pretty good job of it.  I hope that they continue to do well given this insight into the kind of things that concern them.
Erica, UK
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nerdski
The awfully dark tumblr blogs are still widely out there.
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smatts_AUS

I find the whole on-line world full of messages very bad for an ED sufferer.  The pro-ana sites make me feel sick and mad.  i have seen plenty of this on tumblr, and I am not even a member. 

I am not sure how we try to tackle this, it is a run-a-way train in my view.

Would be interested to know how other parents try to control web access where wi-fi access so prevalent and tools to access so available.

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Red
At home, I put a password on every device, at school they locked her out of the net, at friends houses & at home, she wasn't allowed on the net unsupervised. She hated it, but she hated lots of necessary stuff back then.
The future is not set; there is no fate but that which we make for ourselves.

"Not my daughter, you bitch." Mrs. Weasley
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Norah_US
Like Red, we've password protected all the computers at home. We also bought a router that enables us to control when WiFi is available to each device, and also block specific sites. (Tumblr was blocked immediately.) We also went to our neighbors and asked them to password protect their WiFi as well, so our kids couldn't piggyback on their bandwidth. My daughter is only allowed to use the computer in public parts of the house. She may not take it into her bedroom, or even sit in a corner of the living room with the screen hidden from view. I don't read over her shoulder, but I frequently glance at the screen so I know what she is looking at. I know that my teen will find other ways to get on-line, but I have done everythinge I can to prevent her from triggering sites at home. 
Daughter dx at age 14 with AN and depression. Currently 19 and experiencing a relapse.
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JangledUSA
Sounds great but the reality is that nothing changed.   The sites will pop up somewhere else almost immediately.

The only effective thing is to limit access at the keyboard at home and take away the smartphone if you're serious about wanting to control what your kid sees on the internet.

There are sites that will curdle your blood on every topic imaginable.   I think depending on companies to "do something" isn't ever going to work.

Too many countries with too many different laws.
A dad.
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