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Faddywrite
Finding it really hard to reduce the amount of walking etc my daughter is doing. This is mainly because it is our half term, so we have been out together with the dog meeting with friends etc. She seems fine, her bmi is 17.5 but her periods have restarted and she is eating three good meals and snacks every day, just restricting sugary and friend or very fatty foods. Today we accidentally got lost on a walk and ended up doing way too much walking. Feeling a bit of a failure.
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tina72
Those things happen. She is not in a dangerous state at the moment. So maybe try to introduce something (like a smoothie?) this evening and say it is because she walked so much today and need to replace energy. If you sell it this way (that she needs to replace energy when she exercises so much) she might stop it.

Remember, it is not failure, it is learning. It is all try and error with this disease. You are still learning. We all are [wink].

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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scaredmom
No such thing as failure here! 
You are learning by experience and all of us did that. Keeping her social is a really good thing psychologically so I think the walk was good. You got lost and it became a longer walk, so you make the other walk a bit shorter. It is all ok in the game of ED. It is learning and trial and error and you have done really well. I know it does not feel it, as it takes a long time to see that. But look at how far you have come. She has had some fear foods and she is eating 3 meals and snacks!
You are doing great!
XXX
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Faddywrite
Thankyou.
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Faddywrite
Thankyou. I felt my heart sink because she said "I love half term cos I can do so much extra walking!" It is at least partly ed driven need to exercise but I was quite impressed when she said "Ive done 240 minutes of walking today. Thats good but I know its nor so great for my health.." So it sounds like she is accepting she needs limiting.
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Torie
Faddywrite wrote:
So it sounds like she is accepting she needs limiting.


That would be great, but really, it doesn't much matter what she accepts or doesn't or what she thinks or wants.  It only matters what she eats and what she does.  Her thinking is compromised at the moment, but when she has been weight restored for a while, you will see your good old rational girl again. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Faddywrite
Hi Mimi yes even my daughter knew she needed to eat extra so had some more. Its a little complicated as while I think she has an ed of sorts she also has autism and this makes her more honest than maybe sbe would be. For example, she often asks meto come and weigh her, she has never not been open about her weight.
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tina72
So use that honesty. My d is a very hard liar, too, so I always see when she lies. But she sometimes did not tell me all. For example when I asked her what was for snack at her friends house she would have said "there was nut cake". This did not mean SHE ATE NUT CAKE. It only ment that there WAS nut cake. I had to ask very direct "what did you eat for afternoon snack at your friends house" and then she would have said honestly "an apple".

Great that you were able to add something. Keep us updated about the friends meeting today and the samosas!

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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