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jennifereden

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Today my daughter turned thirteen. No party, no day out, no cake. ED won today.
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Sorry. Find a good day and celebrate with her in a way she will accept.  No kid should have to go through this but if they do, they should get holidays and birthdays off.  
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I'm so sorry jennifereden.  I hate that ED takes so much.  

Some days ED will win.  The important part is to get back up and fight it another day.  You are doing hero's work.  Let go of today so you can be there tomorrow.

Thinking of you.

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It is heart wrenching. This illness takes away so much from our children. 

I hope there was something nice you could do with and for your D, and next year may things be so much better.

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Hi Jennifereden,

So sorry, it really does hit home when those "normal" things like birthdays are normal no longer...my daughter spent her 18th birthday in residential treatment, no cake, no celebration, and an added extra bonus: she wouldn't even talk to me!

Now we have birthdays with cake and special events, and she will let herself be celebrated and enjoy the day.

Keep going, tomorrow is another day and another chance to help your daughter.

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hi jennifereden,
Ed makes life events so hard. We too had a hard birthday last year. And you know what, this year was so good. You will get there too! As EDAction says, let today go. Keep focussing on the feeding and remember then next birthday will be that much sweeter. These days that the world takes for granted are even more special for us as we know what our kids are going through. Find another day to do something special for her and you. It does get better, please hold on to that.

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Thank you all for your support! Happy Mothers Day!
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Hi Jennifereden,
I am sorry you are struggling.
Can you "require " her to eat a cupcake or ice  cream.
How can we help you?

Have you seen Eva Musby's video's and book?

Can you start " Life Stops Until You Eat" ?



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https://www.amazon.com/Anorexia-other-Eating-Disorders-compassionate/dp/0993059805




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Hi Jennifereden,
I am sorry you are struggling.
Can you "require " her to eat a cupcake or ice  cream.
How can we help you?

Have you seen Eva Musby's video's and book?

Can you start " Life Stops Until You Eat" ?




I have just purchased on Amazon. I have read other books but, knowledge = power. Thank you!
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Hi Jennifereden

My d spent her 10th birthday in hospital. We brought cake to the hospital, but she didn't have a slice. On her 11th birthday she had a slice and at her 12th birthday she insisted on having a big cake with chips and lollies. It takes time, you will get there!

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I'm so sorry - perhaps you could look forward and focus on her half birthday?  When my kids were younger we used to celebrate half birthdays - half a card, half a cake, it was silly and fun - but it could also serve as something you could think about - you don't need to wait a whole year to celebrate - smaller steps mean more victories - you will get there, and so will she. Hugs : )
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