F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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I am bone weary tired.
Hi Pingu,

it sucks so much and it is so exhausting. You try to support them hour by hour and you feel you are in a wheel that never stops. You cannot sleep because you are thinking about all that happens every day in the nights. You are afraid of her future, of the next day, of everything. I remember that so much.

Can you ask anyone to get you out for a coffee? Can you have a bath? Can you just watch a silly movie and drink a glas of wine in the evening? Can you do anythink nice for yoursel, how little it can be? You work so hard and it is so exhausting to do that.

Is there anyone from here that lives near you and you could have a phone call or a meeting with?
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Hi Pingu,

Just wondering if you are having trouble sleeping. We (husband, ED son and I) found melatonin helped us to sleep better. We got the gradual release ones so we would sleep all night.

Hang in there,

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
i hear you loud and clear!!!
(even your posting name reminds me of a cartoon my son loved when he was little - oh!! The easier times!! )
If you cannot take a physical break, find a way to take a mental break.  Find a silver lining... as tiny as it may be.  Make a play list of music that lifts you up, a pod cast that makes you smile, a stretch that feels good, a memory that is peaceful. 
My dad yo used to say when I was learning to drive: when in doubt, pull over and rest!!!
You can do this!!!  
love and light,