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That is the best way to describe it. Has anyone else's child have ED outbursts that are timeable in duration? When there is a strong outburst, we can generally note that we have to manage it for an hour and then it passes. You can almost set a clock to it. Generally, they are more around at bedtime, but we have seen them through the day.
Therapists have no answer for it. I think of it as a small baby who has been overwhelmed and needs to fuss for a bit before bed. We try DBT techniques, but generally it is crying and yelling for a hour and then they are gone.
I think mine is similar, it seems to happen near bedtime which makes me dread the evening. 9pm is bed now, any later and it gets really bad.

It starts with agitation, I can say nothing rights, escalates into her hating me, then she hates herself and finally she's exhausted and we have a cuddle.

Very much like a toddler tantrum, it's like she gets totally overwhelmed. Poor thing, it's so tough on both of us. I hope they go as she starts to regain weight.
I too found there was almost nothing I could say or do to mitigate a 'spell'.  Eventually I learned to just ride them out, trying to emotionally protect myself as much as possible.

It did get better!

Sending a big hug.

D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]