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Hope post

This is my daughter’s birthday cake. She turns 20 years old tomorrow. It is a homemade from scratch carrot cake with yellow raisins and cream cheese lemon frosting. I died the frosting baby blue, her favorite color.This is what she requested for her birthday along with my homemade bean burritos and tortillas and pico and guac.

She was diagnosed with anorexia at ten in the fall of 2010. She was a dying little tiny girl. She had severe auditory and visual hallucinations of a “ mean mans voice and the blackness”. She had a severe exercise compulsion and OCD rituals. She was incredible physically and mentally ill.

6000 calories a day from 11-14. 9 inches in growth and full puberty. Near doubling of body weight. That little kid had to eat like Michael Phelps . And she did it. 2.5 years of 99% monitored meals including school lunches. First year slept with her.

It was hard. It felt like it would never end....until it did.

Guys- food and time. Lots and lots of food and time. And behavior interruption. And loving like I never knew I could.

Whatever road it takes to get them well, whatever treatment you find works, please know that there is hope.

Get weights up higher. Feed lots of yummy needed fats. Stay the course. Don’t focus on timelines.

Her name starts with a “ D”.

This is for all of our “ Ds”
( and “S” of course and wives and mothers and fathers etc). 5E140AA5-99EB-4B68-AE8F-EBCF17CA35AE.jpeg  64AAF366-D54F-4EA1-B8B1-B84CBFF5E4E9.jpeg 
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
That looks like a triumphant cake!!! Happy birthday to your D tomorrow. Hope you all have a fun joyful day. And thanks so much for cheering us all on. 🍰💃
Happy birthday to your D!  you and her are my heroes, my hope and my inspiration. I have read every word you have posted and it has been incredibly helpful. Thanks for keep updating. Huge hug!
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" September 2018, she had a growth spurt a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricting breakfast and school lunch in January 2019 (that we know). We succesfully refed at home.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that I did not know I had.
Never retreat, never surrender
keep feeding
Congratulations on this perfect bright gold star!!! This beautiful cake is more than just a birthday cake. It is a symbol of the long path to freedom, of triumph over the grave danger.
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
Happy Birthday to your d Mamabear. Wonderful cake. Enjoy and congratulations all round.
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
Awww a very happy birthday to your D. I hope she and you have a wonderful day. Xx
Happy 20 birthday to your D and wishing her all the best
the cake looks delicious!
thanks for your update and all the help you give us on the forum, it’s appreciated 
That is awesome!  Makes my heart sing!  20...I’m so proud of her! What a journey for you...