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D was diagnose with AN restrictive in 2015, beinge eating in 2016, was in php, hozpitilized, and iop. She maintain for 1 year and in february 2018 was admitted to php for AN. First time, I was not prepared for the road ahead, this time, I am doing my best to learn more everyday and do what needs to be done.
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Welcome, dolphine.  So sorry you needed to join us here.  Is your d still in PHP?  Is she gaining weight at a good clip?  Please tell us a little more to help us help you.  And please feel free to ask all the questions you like.

Sometimes I wonder if I should add the video link to my signature line because I recommend it so often.  It is by forum member Eva Musby:



Please feel free to ask all the questions you like. xx

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Thank you. She is stepping down to IOP today. She is at her “target weight” which nobody is sure of what it should because she does not have growth charts. She continues to struggle with meals. I, on the other hand was looking for a support group because most people do not understand what the family goes through. Some days are good, some days are scary.
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A warm welcome, dolphine,

I am so glad you are here and sorry that you need to be here.
Please read all you can. 
There is so much great information and support here. Let us know what you need.  
What do you think you need right now? Are you doing Magic plate? DO you have a plan? Where are you? How old is your D?

Please ask all the questions you have. There is always someone around to help out.

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She is at her “target weight” which nobody is sure of what it should because she does not have growth charts.


There is no way to know in advance how much weight will be enough, and MUCH to often, the professionals pick a target weight that is too low.  WHen she is a proper weight FOR HER, you will start to see improvements in state.  It's not like a magic sudden shift to being fine, but rather a long, slow process.
 
I've heard is said here that we should start as we mean to continue, which means that you should start right out requiring the full nutrition - 3 good meals and 2 - 3 snacks every day, including the early days.  

Please keep us posted. xx

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Hi Dolphine, and welcome here even though no one of us wanted to be here.

These people here are my new family, they are the best! And you will find a safe place to vent, a good place to find information and a great place for encouragement to guide you through this (unfortunately) long journey.

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D was diagnose with AN restrictive in 2015, beinge eating in 2016, was in php, hozpitilized, and iop. She maintain for 1 year and in february 2018 was admitted to php for AN.

I think the relapse resulted from maintaining her weight. A child's weight need to go up until their early 20's. I've added the growth chart below. As you can see around the age of 16-17 they stop to grow, but the weight still shows an upward trend at 20 years of age. So nowhere for healthy children should their weight be 'maintained', especially not for eating disorder children, who need weight gain to repair their bodies and minds.

Please give us more information about your struggles with meal times. We are here to help and to share our experiences with you. You are not alone in this journey.

Sending you plenty of hugs!!!


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D became obsessed with exercise at age 9. Started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. She is back to her old happy self and can eat anything put in front of her. Now working on intuitive eating.
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Hi dolphin,
a very warm welcome from Germany and sorry that you have to be here. This is the best place to be for you at the moment, you will get great help here and we are pleased to be your "support group".
Please ask whatever you want whenever you need.
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Hi,
Have you seen these two videos, I fount them very helpful.


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