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After nearly ten loooong months of very very slow progress my d is near weight restoration. She's 13 so we're both aware we will be chasing weight targets for many years to come but as a first stage target she's a couple of kilos shy of being back to WR for her age and height.

As this approaches there's been a sudden rise in anxiety and a sudden worry about gaining the last few pounds. Is this normal and how do you push through this hurdle?

It's like she's so near but as she approaches a lot of fear is kicking in. There's been no talk or anxiety about weight and numbers for ages but now that voice has been shouting.

Is this a start of a relapse?

Is it ed fighting?

Has anyone else experienced this?

Thanks as ever, you lovely people
Hi, I don't have time to write much now but this article should reassure you that the anxiety rise your d is experiencing now is normal
Hi Seaglass. I won't have advice for you but we are at the stage you are, after 18 months. Actually, I wonder if we just went through that hump on the graph that humpity posted, as things are just calming down. At first, I was blaming my d's pms but it was lasting over 2 weeks. She just couldn't stand the look in the mirror before shower so I stepped in to rush her through the shower routine. Also, it felt like at the beginning of refeeding stage. She's always said there was no way she'd go over 100 lbs, then 110 lbs, then 115, then 120 lbs (she is at 117 and her target was set at 118-120). I think she will need to go over that 120, better now so she can conquer her anxiety than later in life (she's almost 15). I keep pushing no matter what, and trusting we will end up on the other side one day. Hang in there! x
Seaglass, yes it is widely reported. You may also like to look for posts on extinction burst and on the last 10 pounds. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
It's very, very common. Just keep going. You're doing great.

D in and out of EDNOS since age 8. dx RAN 2013. WR Aug '14. Graduated FBT June 2015 at 18 yrs old. [thumb]