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Kiwimum03 Show full post »
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I agree with Tina that the best thing is to just make a rule. Trying to get your daughter to agree to it however is another matter altogether. You are asking for her to have insight and to be buying into her own recovery. Many kids don't have this for some years into their journey. Until that point you are arguing with her eating disorder and no amount of authoritative explanations are going to change this for her. She needs enough energy to regain her health. If she expends more energy she needs to eat more. It is the only explanation she needs. If she wants to argue then she gets driven. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Enn
‘  cant let d walk to from bus if she doesn't increase her intake or eat more energy dense foods?’

This is golden! That is your plan and very wise. 
Have you looked up anosognosia? In a nut shell she is so ill she cannot understand how ill she is. And although their arguments sound oh so rational, you will be the one to keep the medicine food and decrease in activity or more food for activity, going. 
My d did listen to authority, (11 years old) at the time. If the doctor said to have three smoothies a week she did. If doctor said she had to refuel after exercise she did. 
Now all our kids are different. She has to eat with any activity that is your rule. I support you in that.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Enn
Here is some information
https://www.verywellmind.com/anosognosia-and-anorexia-3573545
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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sandie
Hi we at 6 months into slow refeeding and only recently allowed walk to/ from school as weight was too low andprogress too slow. Once my D was healthier and demonstrating that she could make the required progress of 500g per week we agreed that she could start with walking from school so long as she added a juice to daily intake. Was bumpy for a few days to initiate but now settled as standard part of meal- plan. We found it very important to be absolutely strict about what the expectation was and also to be clear that having the juice alone wad not sufficient. Se needed full meal- plan including juice to be allowed to walk. And fingers crossed, this approach seems to be working. Best of luck. Xxxx
Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair
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Kiwimum03
thanks everyone for your support. I will keep sticking to the rule that if the meal plan is not adhered to then no walking to the bus. And an extra snack is required for extra activity. 
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ValentinaGermania
Kiwimum03 wrote:
thanks everyone for your support. I will keep sticking to the rule that if the meal plan is not adhered to then no walking to the bus. And an extra snack is required for extra activity. 


Sounds like a great plan!
Make sure the extra snack goes in BEFORE the activity starts and do not believe her if she promises to eat it there or afterwards.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Kiwimum03
yes our therapist clued us up on eating snack BEFORE activity!
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