I have been a lurker and infrequent poster for 3 years or so, but not recently. Starting in 2016, when my DD, then 13, first came to tell me she was having a problem eating at school. I won't go into the whole story, but I wanted to post now because I believe our ED story is finally, definitely, over.
I want to say a huge thank you to the many other parents on this forum who have given so much of themselves to help me and the rest of us tackle our children's eating disorders. When we were in the depths of despair and I didn't know where to turn, this forum was an absolute life-saver for me. You gave me advice, you gave me guidance, you gave me the confidence to believe that what I was doing was the right thing, and to stick to my guns over refeeding (faster!), medication (now, please!) and so much more.
DD has been restored to her healthy relationship with food for over a year now. She is, post-GCSEs, now very, very slowly weaning herself off her maintenance dose of anti-depressants, and we are all looking forward to a life free of this dreadful condition.
I know we have had it luckier than many. I know I will always be looking over her shoulder, always second-guessing, keeping half an eye open, but I am learning not to let this affect our lives and relearning how to let go as DD's independence grows.
Thank you, you know who you are, whether you replied to my own posts, or to others, and/or responsible for posting some of the fabulous meal/distraction/survival ideas that I found on this forum and sometimes just (especially!) for the cheerleading.
If you're still going through the horrors of an ED with your child, and especially if you're just starting, I'd like to offer you hope. This thing can be beaten. You can get your son/daughter back. Have confidence in yourself and in your gut instincts. Fight it, fight it hard, and when it fights back that's when you know you're getting somewhere, and you fight harder still. Good luck!!!
D, b.2002, diagnosed with depression, anxiety and EDNOS Spring/Summer 2016.
Love to all,
Some restricting, some vomiting, some self-harm for good measure.
FBT, CBT, now on 3rd type of anti-d's.
D is "cured" of the ED but still on low dose of anti-d's. Will I ever be cured?