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cbmum

Dear all

I have been a lurker and infrequent poster for 3 years or so, but not recently. Starting in 2016, when my DD, then 13, first came to tell me she was having a problem eating at school. I won't go into the whole story, but I wanted to post now because I believe our ED story is finally, definitely, over.

I want to say a huge thank you to the many other parents on this forum who have given so much of themselves to help me and the rest of us tackle our children's eating disorders. When we were in the depths of despair and I didn't know where to turn, this forum was an absolute life-saver for me. You gave me advice, you gave me guidance, you gave me the confidence to believe that what I was doing was the right thing, and to stick to my guns over refeeding (faster!), medication (now, please!) and so much more.

DD has been restored to her healthy relationship with food for over a year now. She is, post-GCSEs, now very, very slowly weaning herself off her maintenance dose of anti-depressants, and we are all looking forward to a life free of this dreadful condition.

I know we have had it luckier than many. I know I will always be looking over her shoulder, always second-guessing, keeping half an eye open, but I am learning not to let this affect our lives and relearning how to let go as DD's independence grows.

Thank you, you know who you are, whether you replied to my own posts, or to others, and/or responsible for posting some of the fabulous meal/distraction/survival ideas that I found on this forum and sometimes just (especially!) for the cheerleading.

If you're still going through the horrors of an ED with your child, and especially if you're just starting, I'd like to offer you hope. This thing can be beaten. You can get your son/daughter back. Have confidence in yourself and in your gut instincts. Fight it, fight it hard, and when it fights back that's when you know you're getting somewhere, and you fight harder still. Good luck!!!

Love to all,
CBmum

D, b.2002, diagnosed with depression, anxiety and EDNOS Spring/Summer 2016.
Some restricting, some vomiting, some self-harm for good measure.
FBT, CBT, now on 3rd type of anti-d's.
D is "cured" of the ED but still on low dose of anti-d's. Will I ever be cured?

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Enn
cbmum,
I am very pleased for you and your family. You have provided hope to many with this post,
i am sure. We love these stories. They fuel us to keep moving, and feeding with a purpose. 
I feel more positive having read this. 
Thank you and well done you need to move on and live that life without ED! 
🥳💜
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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sk8r31
Wishing you all the best, and thanks so very much for returning with your hope-filled post!
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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ValentinaGermania
I am so happy for you and your family and I wish you all the best and a wonderful future for your d!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Scarlett81
Congratulations! And thank you for leaving us with such a wonderful parting gift of hope.  All you parents that have fought the battle and come out the other end, you are all an inspiration.
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edengirl
Thank you for returning to post.  Although we also have made it to the other side, it is still so comforting to have someone in front of you who is farther along than you are.  We all desperately need reassurance that things can return and more importantly stay "normal" for our kids.  Blessings and happiness to you and your family! 
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Kali

Dear CBmum,

Thanks for posting this story of hope. (I happen to love stories of hope; they got me through the dark times) It is wonderful to hear the good news about your daughter! 

Wishing her (and you!) well in the years to come. 

warmly,

Kali

Food=Love
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Mamaroo
That's great news, thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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