F.E.A.S.T's Around The Dinner Table forum

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“Some families are telling us they’re really making progress with recovery-oriented support in ways they couldn’t manage before. Some families are feeling grateful for the chance to really focus on recovery together.” 

Laura (Collins) Lyster-Mensh
F.E.A.S.T. Executive Director
Yes, I feel we are really hunkering down and getting the job done. As all exams have been cancelled extra stress has been lifted. No school means less exercise and no friend issues. I’m taking this as an opportunity to move forward and my D seems to want that too. 
15 year old D. Started to feel low summer 2019. Fall out with friends October 2019. Depressed, self-harming and suicidal from January 2020. Diagnosed with AN July 2020. Slowly coming out of it and feeling hopeful for the future.
Yes I think we may be making some teeny tiny steps forwards. An attitude change has been evident as the focus in the house has been more on the lack of availability of food. The fact we are not able to pop to the shop every time something runs out. The takeaway orders have slowed down a bit because her wages are lower. She isn’t consumed with her daily work schedule that is hectic. She is home thinking a lot. The binge purge is still going on daily and is still frightening, but for the first time she wants to recover. When busy it is easier to dodge responsibility maybe. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think for a minute this will continue. There are no friendship arguements or boyfriend issues because they aren’t seeing each other much. A strange boredom now the self harm stage has hopefully passed has descended. I have to hope this is going to be a blessing in disguise- the virus lockdown. 
NELLY D 20 bulimic since age 12, diagnosed in 2011. 20 months useless CAMHs,7 months great IP, home March 14..... more useless CAMHs.now an adult & no MH services are involved. I reached the end of my tether, tied a knot in it and am hanging on. ED/Bulimia treatmentis in the dark ages in West Sussex.
Lovely to hear from you you, Nelly. 

You know we are all hoping right along with you. Any and all steps towards health are so welcome. 

Warm wishes and hugs. Stay safe. 

2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, stable but no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly and cautiously gaining weight at home and seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Building up hour by hour at school after 18 months at home. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. [thumb] 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight
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