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Pingu
Form 1 submitted Friday pm and now assessent at home tomorrow morning for IP which she is kicking off about

Does anyone want to adopt a teenager?? 
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Enn
Although this is stressful, it may be the best way to get her the help she deserves. 
Hoping all goes well, Pingu.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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CED123
Maybe we could arrange some multi- way swap...
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
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Pingu
Well I do compare her meal times to a scene from the excorcist 
All I need is the head spinning and Im off
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sandie
Sorry this is so stressful Pingu. Big hug.
Courage is not the absence of despair; it is rather the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair
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Foodsupport_AUS
Good to hear they are doing something. I have always found at these stressful times,writing down point form all the things I want to get across to them, the behaviours that are an issue, concerns etc. so I can hand it to them. It is easy to get distracted in the moment of assessment as often the team wants to steer things the way they want to, and lose sight of what we need.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Jojo2271
hang in there Pingu
hope its going ok and the way you need
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CED123
How are you doing pingu? hope the assessment went ok.
Currently no light; only tunnel 🙁
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Pingu
So update 

At the assessment they were initially thinking IP however speaking to her they were struck by her saying that if she does go IP again and miss final year at school she will just stop. 
Finally someone gets why I'm so anxious and it isnt so straight forward. 
I then said as a last ditch attempt to keep her on track... She live with me full time and cooperate with therapy.
She's not happy but year 11 means everything to her so she's accepted the "terms" and we're giving it a go.
Yesterday she had a weigh I. After week at dad's and again she's lost. 7kg so rather proves my point. 
Her dad has finally said he can't manage and has a greed. 
The care coordinator is also liasing with GP to try and get Individual funding request agreed so we can go to insight eating. 
So I'm collecting her today... She's furious but I'm gonna stand my ground and am off to do the shopping before picking her up so I can buy my essentials.... Cream, butter, Parmesan etc etc I. Peace 
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Foodsupport_AUS
I am hoping that she can use that as motivation to keep going. Great that there is an agreement of consistency for being at home with you. After all  you have gone through with this team they can see you are up for the fight. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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sk8r31
Glad to hear that your team & you & d's dad are all on the same page.  Sending warm support to you, and a big hug.  Please do take care of yourself, so that you can manage for the long haul.  Having a strong motivator, school in this case, can make a real difference.  Going away to university was the thing that motivated my d too, and tapping into her desire for that helped to push through the tough times. Hang in there!
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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