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My ARN 17 D told her therapist today that she's been weighing herself. It is not at home as we dont have a scale. She has seen that she has gained 11lbs. I think she does this at a friends house. I haven't noticed any change in her since she's been doing this so maybe I should not bring it up to D? The ED therapist said that D didnt  seem overly concerned about it....
Well if she is eating and gaining and not upset- I would take that as it comes. 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
I agree, with Enn. If it is not interfering then I would leave it. On the other hand it becomes a sticking point and interferes with heading in the right direction - I would try to stop it from happening. 
My D after a while preferred not to know her weight, it caused to much stress, whilst earlier she just had to know. She now wants to know because it gives her feedback. Different stages, different influences. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Hmmm I can't remember if your d is blind weighed at the doctor's office or what.  Some find blind weights best and others open weighing so that depends.  I think we would all agree that if ED-kid knows her weight, we parents should also have that information.  I can't tell if you have this information or not, or if you only know her weight gain because of the report from the t. Kid tells t who tells you = not especially reliable information.

We tried blind weights, but it drove my d absolutely nuts.  And then she kept finding out her weight anyway (once she was weighed in school, as they do every year in Pennsylvania, once she turned around really fast and so saw the weight as they blind weighed her, not sure how many times she used a scale in a store, school locker room or friend's house, etc.).  So in our case open weighing was much better - if my kid is going to have this information about her weight, I'm sure as heck going to have it too.  Also, scales vary considerably and weighing on all these different scales is at best unhelpful. xx

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