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My daughter sleeps always at the edge of her bed and in strange positions. I don't think she used to do this. Is this an ED behavior I am supposed to stop?
Yes. My d refused to sleep under the covers.. she thought she’d burn more calories if she was cold. Then she would “fall asleep” in different couches in our house. In therapy she admitted to not wanting to be too comfortable and oversleeping (and not burning calories.)
Hi Debra18

During refeeding my d wanted to sleep outside in the trampoline (under the canopy). It was summer so I didn't mind. I slept next to her in the trampoline and it was quite nice (20C summer nights). When the summer holiday was over, she was back sleeping in her bed. 

I think when the anxiety is challenged during refeeding it hides in other places. My d wore her hair over her face, because the weight went on the face first, then it went to how she talked and pronounced words. When one concentrates on talking, words naturally come out wrong, since it is an unconscious process, you don't consciously think how do I pronounce this or that word. I had to constantly tell her there is nothing wrong in the way she speaks. She almost stopped talking.

You can ignore it and see if it gets better with the weight going on or ask her to move to a more normal sleeping position (tell her you don't want her to fall out of bed). 
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
My D did the same thing (floor, edge of bed, different bed, needing to be on first floor of house, not second, wanting to sleep in the car, or outside on porch) when her ED and anxiety was at its peak. We allowed everything that was safe (not on porch or in car) and continued to heap love and affection on her, despite the disturbing behavior. When her anxiety died down, so did the behavior. I hope this helps and hang in there! It can be so disturbing to see your D restrict simple comforts.
When I mentioned it to her she said she didn't realize it. The first two night she put her pillow in the middle of the bed and the next night she started sleeping at the top again. It's helpful to know which behaviors are ED related so I can address them. Thanks for the responses.
She told me today her head hurts when she tries to think. I guess her brain has not completely healed yet.