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Hi @Aggie,

I love the humour that is shining in your home!
Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
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A bit different situation here in some respects -- d has no care about the number as far as I can tell.  BUT she dislikes weighing frequently, I suspect because it is just another thing she has to do that other kids do not, and is another reminder she is treated differently (like having extra offerings, and tightly monitored, etc.).  For the most part we do it like Deenl in that we do it seldom when state seems good and my eyes see food going in well.  When it seems consumption or state are down, I will get more frequent weights.  When things start getting especially bad (during or right after illness, for example) I will take her in to the doctor to be weighed -- they will have her pee in a cup, do orthostatic testing, and blind weight.  We used to do that every week or so and she disliked it very much ... again, it was a hassle, it messed up school and social events and down time at home, it took a long time, it was something she had to do and knew of nobody else doing it.  

Doctor always did blind and so did I for a long stretch in the beginning of our biggest stretch of "refeeding" (like when we had her drinking extra shakes, etc).  She never had angst about the number but blind seemed safer.  Then in the summer she was going to be home all day, playing at neighbor houses (presumably some with scales in the bathroom), and with access to a bike and a pass to the gym, so I figured she could weigh herself any day she wanted to.  So one day she asked if she should turn around backward as she was getting on the scale and I said I was fine either way, it was up to her.  She paused and then got on front ways and did see the number.  Zero response.  So then I knew, if she does weigh herself at the gym she will not freak out.  (she goes to the gym for social reasons, she is about the most sedentary kid on earth).  

Now I use the scale at home very seldom because I can tell we are in a mess and I don't need it to tell me there is no gain, just to alert me if loss.  Because we are super down on eating right now, I am going to tell her if she does not eat better we will need to start back with going to the doctor for med checks.  I am hoping that will be enough to get her to pay more attention to drinking and eating more ... again, not RAN so the "restriction" comes from a different place, but that scale is still my best friend at times to let me know where we are.  

Would your d allow home weight, blind, maybe every 2-3 weeks just to save having to go to physician for it??
Mom of either pre-diagnosis or non-ed underweight 12 yoa (as of March 2018) kid here to learn how to achieve weight gain.  BMI steadily in the mid 12's for nearly her entire life.  Born 2006. UPDATE:  April 2018 diagnosed ARFID, based solely on weight being less than 75% of Ideal Body Weight.  Mildly picky, but mostly the problem is a volume/early satiety issue, along with abdominal discomfort and chronic constipation, all present since birth.  UPDATE:  July 2019 diagnosed with PANS. Dr. said likely started first PANS episode at less than 1 or 2 years of age.  On long-term daily prophylactic antibiotics. BMI now about 16 after period of intense refeeding prior to PANS dx,  followed by stagnation as we sort out what is next. FWIW ED-D is a fraternal twin and we have no other kids.
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