My daughter 13.5, is early in her recovery program. We have been lucky to get help quite quickly, and she is beginning the steps to wr, which is overwhelmingly terrifying at times, but we are getting through each hurdle bit by bit. She struggles (of course) but her main worry is how it is affecting everyone else. She hates when her outbursts upset her family, which makes it worse somehow. She is constantly struggling with "Why is this so hard," and "I'm so sick of crying."
We have been advised by our team to introduce new foods and lots of them, and she is not allowed to have any control in the decision making of her eating plan, which she finds extremely frustrating. Is this the normal way of doing things? She is quite good at helping to make sensible food decisions, and can see reason most of the time if she is being kept in the loop.
We have been out of school for a month and have been told today at her weigh in that they still dont feel she is ready to return, even though she is eating everything we give her, and in quite a quick manner. This is also adding to her depressive moods. She has been offered medication, but is not having a bar of it.
Can anyone offer advice on their eating regime, and if I'm on the right track as most days I feel I am just floundering. Please tell me it gets easier??
Hello and welcome, from me too!
I know no one wants to be here, but it is really the best place to get info and support.
You say that she worries how her outbursts are affecting you- poor thing, she is so worried. Try to reassure her that YOU are all OK. And show her, even if you need to fake it that you are calm and cool and collected. That will help her. She needs to know that you can "shoulder" her outbursts. That is a kindness you can give her. She has strong ED voices and it does come out in the early part as you are on top of it. This is normal, unfortunately.
What are you feeding her, what does she fight over? We can help with that. You having the control over what she eats, even new foods it usually the way. As noted above, there are many ways to do the "fear foods". We each find our way. It is by trial and error sometimes.
I know you feel you are floundering, but what I hear in your note is that :
1) she is eating well
2) she is able to pick out sensible foods
3) you say you are getting through hurdles
4) she wants to go to school
These are very positive points! I want you to hold onto those! Really they are great at such an early stage.
It does get easier, but you may not recognise it when it happens. It is slow, slow, slow AND it does get better!
Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight +/-the "right" meds= healing ---> recovery (---> life without ED)