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hopefulmama
I’m an old member of this forum. My daughter struggled for several years with anorexia, anxiety, depression, self harm, etc. She missed much of her junior and senior years of high school, isolated from all friends and had to delay college. It was only with the help of this forum that she recovered. The mothers here helped me change and do what was necessary to get my daughter to the other side. Last week she got engaged. She has been in strong recovery for many years now! I hope that this post gives those in the trenches hope. If my daughter could recover, it is possible for anyone. Listen to the wise women here. They often said things I didn’t want to hear, but they were right!
Enjoying my 23 year-old daughter's achievement of active recovery that was made possible by the resources and education I found on this forum.

Don't give up hope!
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Mamaroo
Congratulations!!!! That's great news 😁, you must be so proud. Thanks for sharing!
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
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deenl
Thanks so much for updating us on this wonderful news. These are the life experiences we dream of for our kids while we grind away day-to-day. I do feel that a silver lining of dealing with this horror of an illness is that life's pleasures are that much sweeter from the tiny daily ones to the big life changes. I hope you, she and all your loved ones are savouring this happy time.

Congratulations and best wishes for continuing health and a loving and joyful future for the happy couple.

D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
  • Swedish proverb: Love me when I least deserve it because that's when I need it most.
  • We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence Recovery, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle.
  • If the plan doesn't work, change the plan but never the goal.
  • We cannot control the wind but we can direct the sail.
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Foodsupport_AUS
Congratulations, wonderful news. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
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Frazzled
Congratulations! So glad to hear!
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Enn

That is wonderful! So glad that she is doing so well!

XXX

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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WorriedMum68
Congratulations! That’s really lovely and uplifting news, hopefulmama, thank you for sharing it. My daughter is near the start of this journey, and stories like yours give me hope.
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Torie
Oh yay!!  So glad to hear this happy news!  My heart always sings to see your name in the "author" box, as I will be forever grateful that when my d was cutting and so depressed and full of self-loathing that she didn't want to live (never mind "wanting to get better'), you convinced me I could drag her back to health anyway.

So happy for you! xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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AUSSIEedfamily
Dear hopefulmama,

So glad to hear this.

Our darling daughter is recovered married and a 10 week old son.

There are a few dads here.
ED Dad
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HopeNZ
What wonderful news, hopefulmama! Thank you so much for sharing. Stories like yours and Aussieedfamily's really testify to your love and commitment to making your kids well again. Enjoy this new chapter in your family's life.

Xx
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kazi67
Hopefulmama
What lovely news!!
Congratulations and wishing love and happiness to all
xx
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sk8r31
So lovely to hear this news!  Congratulations to you & your family on this important milestone!  As deenl says, it's ever so much sweeter to savor these special moments, having parented your loved one through such tough times.

Hope your post gives hope to those still struggling; thanks for taking the time to do so, in order that this community can share in the joyful celebration.

Warmly,
sk8r31
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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Kali
Hopefulmama,

Congrats to your daughter and to YOU for helping to give her her life back so that she could reach this moment.

What happy news! 

You spread some of your hope my way when I was really struggling to find some and I am thankful for that. I wish your family all good things and a wonderful life long love affair for your daughter and her beloved.

warmly,

Kali


Food=Love
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melstevUK
Lovely news.  And as you say, encouraging for everyone who is stuck with the illness in full swing and feeling that there is no hope.  Recovery and normal life are definitely possible and achievable.  
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
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Elks73
This is awesome news and just wanted I needed to hear ( in the depth of trenches here!) congratulations x
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bluerain
Such wonderful news, I’m so grateful you shared it.

Every one of you are pure magic <3
We can do hard things well...
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ValentinaGermania
How can I have missed that???
So sorry, hopefulmama, that I did not see your post earlier because of our vacation!
I do not think I can go on another holiday without internet next year...[confused]
That is soooo great! I wish you all the best!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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needhelp
Hopeful Mama that is just wonderful news- thank you so very much for sharing!! Wishing you and your family all the joy that is part of this exciting time - and beyond.
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