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quillingbee
I'm not one to post often but I do seek regular comfort here reading what you guys post.
My 20 yr old s has been weight restored (mostly) for over a year and has been maintaining well at college on his own (with the help of a girlfriend who likes to eat).
Anyhow over the summer s ended up hospitalized for 4 days with a serious throat infection and it was determined he needed his tonsils out.
We had that done 3 days ago so he'd be home on break and could be monitored for his healing as well as watching out for keeping his intake up.
It's been a mostly Popsicle and Powerade past two days and i started freaking out in my mind about not enough calories. All my usual tricks are useless since he can't stand dairy as it coats his throat and makes swallowing hard. This is typical for tonsillectomy not his ED talking.
So to the forum I escape and lo and behold I find my answer to add some vegetable oil to Boost. When I went to stock up on some Boost I find a new product (at least to me) where in a 4 oz bottle you get the same nutrition and calories as an 8 oz bottle. It's called Boost Compact.
Yay! Less swallowing and more calories per swallow!
So just posting to say a few things....1. my s has been maintaiing his weight and recovery on his own at college for a year (he uses a scale to keep his weight up which I know most people would say is wrong but it works for him), 2. This forum reaches many people even if they don't post much, 3. Boost comes in compact size with full size benefits!

Thanks to all who post regularly. Sometimes just reading when I'm doubting helps regain focus.

Bee
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Elena
I hope he is recovering from having his tonsils out.  I'm glad that you found the boost compact, all these things are so necessary when our recovering kids are sick, because we sure don't want them back where they were.  My d has had a few sickness which threatened her recovery and we rely quite heavily on Fortisips and Up&gos, and ensure milkshakes to keep her calorie intake reasonable at such times. It really does take constant vigilance to stop them from going backwards. I'm glad that normally he is managing to keep his weight where it needs to be.
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sk8r31
Hope the healing goes smoothly for your son.  My daughter had her tonsils out last Xmas, and I was in a bit of a panic about how she would manage.  Fortunately, she does work with an RD, who works with an ED population.

She gave d a printout of foods to eat, and when to begin solids etc.  In order to avoid dairy for the first week, we used lots of coconut milk and soy/almond milk for smoothies.  The coconut 'ice cream' packs a real caloric wallop.

She did really well, and at the end of Xmas break had not lost any weight.  

Hang in there, and kudos to your son for managing so well this past year.
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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quillingbee
Sk8r31. Can you explain what coconut "ice cream" is? Thx
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Colleen
Bee, thank you for sharing your story of hope!

Our recovered d also uses a scale to help maintain her health. A scale is an inanimate object, neither good nor bad. It can be an instrument of torture to someone when they are ill and a tool for recovery to that same person later. The difference is in the mind of the user, not the object itself. I'm glad to hear that your son is using it for good! May he continue to recover! And bless that girlfriend who likes to eat!
Colleen in the great Pacific Northwest, USA

"What some call health, if purchased by perpetual anxiety about diet, isn't much better than tedious disease."
Alexander Pope, 1688-1744
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sk8r31
Hi Quillinbee...

I was totally amazed at the variety of dairy-free options in the frozen food section.  I think the brand we used was 'Coconut Bliss', and it has about the same cals as Hagen Daz ice cream...in the neighborhood of 250 cal for 1/2 c.  So, you can make a 1 cup drink with soy milk and frozen fruit that is about 600 cal to start...and can add ground almonds and other add-ins if you like.

During recovery from tonsillectomy, d had at least one of these per day.  After a week, we did add dairy back in, and then things like scrambled eggs with butter and cheese, soft pasta with butter & cheese etc., mashed pototoes

Wishing you & s all the best,
sk8r31
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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