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joanne34 Show full post »

Yup agree with Foodsupport about how much food may be required. My d needed 4500 to have good weight gain. 

You mention traumatizing her with food and then she may refuse. Many of us were scared of that and for some it did really happen. For my d when I was not scared of her not eating and stood firm she did actually eat. I found that when I stood up to Ed and eating was non negotiable then d , my real d felt relieved and blamed me for the eating so she had an out with Ed. D also knew, as her doctor told her straight up, that if she did not eat that she wanted me to take her to the hospital. 

If your child does refuse to eat then going to the hospital may be in order. If you have plans in place for not eating or unacceptable behaviour well documented beforehand you will be prepared. I am sorry to worry you, I just want you to be prepared just in case.

When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Yes, I took it as soon as it was released in the '90's and have rotated between it, Prozac and Paxil. I have Bipolar Disorder so have to take it with something strong in order to keep mania under control. I take it with Zyprexa as my kidneys  are no longer happy with other choices. My Zyprexa (olanzepine) dose is 30mg total per day and my Zoloft (sertraline) dose is 125mg per day. Sertraline is the very best antidepressant (and I have tried most in every single class of AD's) for me.

I have been told adolescents can be more sensitive to psychiatric drugs than younger children or geriatrics, so you may find your daughter doesn't need a dose as high as mine. In reality, my OCD is helped more by a higher dose of sertraline, but the mania can not be controlled as well at anything much higher, but I have to accept the comorbids and work with them. 

In really severe depressive states my lack of appetite does play into the E.D. in a huge way. Once a big calorie deficit hits, whoa- it's a problem. I can easily go days without eating from a depressive episode and I will be in full blown AN restriction mode with rapid weight loss and altered heart rate and BP. I can become the Wikipedia of Calories quite quickly, as well. (I'm sure that is loads of fun for those around me!!) This is all avoidable for the most part, as long as I require myself to eat even if depressed.  If the cycle of caloric deficit mobilizes much, things  would not be good. However, not getting into that territory works well, but is not always easy. 

If I had a daughter who happened to be your daughter's age, and she might benefit from careful use, I would not hesitate after doing some research based on your D, since you are aware of her particular situation and health details. 
Good luck!
joanne34 wrote:
We'll just have to keep sensibly be upping intake but balancing that with trying not to traumatise her so she starts refusing food.  At the mo she does eat her meals/snacks  etc.

I also think that this should not stop you from upping the intake. They are all afraid of more food and they all blackmail us that they will stop to eat totally if we do it and guess what, only a few do that really and these cases need to learn what a tube is then. Sorry for being so blunt, but you should not be afraid of what ED is afraid of. It is only food. There is no logical reason for trauma in that case. She needs to overcome this fear, she needs to learn that food is not dangerous, and she can only learn it by exposition.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
It has made a huge difference for my daughter! No side effects, was tired for a couple of days at start. 
was taking it well for half a year and then had to change and then add another antidepressant and another. I realized for one thing, anti-depressants are lies that do not stop you from solving your problems yourself, do not stop at feeling like a person and mature. as hard as it may be, I have now assumed responsibility for myself. is it better for me? no, sometimes it is devilishly difficult, but i give the chance that i will find myself, and when i give myself a chance the solution comes naturally. life and has to be tough sometimes, very hard. but so created by nature for our own safety.