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Hi all, it's been suggested to me that I should ask for my 15yo d who has AN to have a sensory profile as, particularly when she's stressed or anxious, she is very sensitive to noise, smells and touch. I wondered whether this was common, if anyone else had any experience of having a sensory profile done or tips to help in this situation. Having chatted with her about it, I realise she already has developed her own methods - for example the headphones wearing headphones while working (I assumed they were playing music, but apparently they're often silent). But other ideas would be very welcome.
I think it is common for them to exhibit sensory issues.  Many find a weighted blanket to be a comfort. xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
I think it was Deenls son that had problems with noise if I remember that correct. Maybe check her posts with the search button.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Hi Ruby3,

So that's why my daughter sleeps with earplugs!  She was very keen on early nights, firmly believing that sleep supports growth (she wants to be taller) and it took her extra long to fall asleep during the worst stage of AN. At least this way, she could have some rest after a day full of stress.

If you believe your daughter would benefit from the sensory profile being done, especially if she would be willing, then go for it.  It might remove triggers. Is there a particular smell she might find calming?  Like lavender, vanilla etc. And calming music she might still like?  You can use them as a carrot - the sooner she eats all on her plate, the sooner she can relax in her favourite setting.  It might help with post-meal anxiety, the so-called guilt rage after eating more than ED allowed her.

However, the primary objective is FOOD and weight restoration. I was amazed how the moods improved with every pound gained.  Or rather, how further apart the outbursts came.

All the best,

Mum's Kitchen

14-y-o "healthy living" led to AN in 2017 and WR at 16. Current muscle dysmorphia.
Thanks Zylie. Yes, food is the priority and largely under control with slow weight restoration, but I think calming things along the way help. I might try a weighted blanket.
When my d is upset she finds it very calming to go to the beach for a walk or just to sit and watch the sunset, sometimes she takes her dogs too
She always comes back much happier 
i also find the beach very calming