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I've been following a neighbor's trip on Facebook and I look at pictures of her 12 year old daughter and think she looks so so thin.   It actually triggers me to worry about this girl.  Before my d fell down the AN rabbit hole, I would have looked at that picture and thought - well, they are just a thin build family.  Now I look at her and think - how is that girl healthy?  Is AN lurking and the mom just does not realize it?  She looks like so many of the kids that I saw in residential.  

Does that happen to you all?   I've thought about saying something to the mom but we are not super close.  And I can imagine it might be like when you are buying a new car, you notice that brand of car all over the highway all of a sudden.  So probably just an over reaction and an over callibration to the disease.   But I'm surprised how upset I feel every time I see pics of this girl.

Yes this happens to me all the time. In fact this week as well. I was reminded by a wise friend that ED
comes in many sizes and it is the behaviours are the key here. I did reach out to an acquaintance 2 yrs ago and she admitted she had ED. 
Gosh it is so triggering  isn’t it? 

Does your neighbour know about your child?


When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
It happens to me too. my sister had a bad breakup and became soooo thin, (she and my mom are naturally very thin), it was so triggering for me I couldn't see her without feeling really stressed, and I didn't want my D to see her. I actually ask my brother to ask her to put on her jacket! I KNOW she does not have ED and yet she triggers me when she for any reason looks thinner than usual.
13 yo d started to eat "healthy" September 2018, she had a growth spurt a bit later, followed by tummy bug. She started restricting breakfast and school lunch in January 2019 (that we know). We succesfully refed at home.
I have found inner strenght, patience and compassion that I did not know I had.
Never retreat, never surrender
keep feeding