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Lildil
Just wondering about opinions on weighing my son during summer, I personally feel that its best to have someone else do it because then they have to be more accountable, our school counselor has been awesome because we weigh him and then she councils with him. Then he leaves and she councils with my husband and I. If we weigh hin, there probably won't be much discussion about how he is doing.
Don't really want to go to the hospital to do it. I could ask if the school counselor could do it at her house.
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Enn
I do agree that having someone else do it is wise. You mention the school counsellor is doing this? Do you not have medical team overseeing your son's health overall?  
I have not yet seen here that the school was so involved especially with monitoring ED. 
I would hope that you have a specialized team to support you as well and they can advise you over time.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Lildil
Scaredmom
Thank you, we have a team in Denver, that is too far,5 hrs away so we have a therapist that is 3 hours and school counselor and yes I know it seems odd but I wish I could give all of you a counselor like this one. We have felt very blessed to have her, she rallied some aids at school to help him through lunch and they kept a pretty close eye on him. I keep in pretty good touch with our dietitian in Denver also. Seems better that we stick with the counselor than going to hospital and paying once a week to weigh him.
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Enn
Oh that is good. And glad you still have your specialist team.
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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Enn
Lildil I am impressed. It goes to show the lengths parents go to to  get some help and it can be in the most unexpected places. Good for you!
So many roads to Rome!
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
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ValentinaGermania
My 2 cents:
ask the counsellor to do it at her home
ask the pediatrician to do it/your GP
ask a good friend if you could do it at their house

We did it at GP for 2 years and are now changing to do it at home again (same rules: backwards on scale and mum has poker face). I was scared that it will cause problems but went better than expected. She knows we will go back to weigh her somewhere else if needed but up to now that works.
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Lildil
Thank you Tina, you know I always love your 2 cents.
We weighed him at the school yesterday and I expressed my concern and she said we can just keep meet in at the school. Big sigh of relief! Onward and upward!
Thank you, thank you.
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ValentinaGermania
Sometimes the solution is so easy and direct and we have worried a lot for nothing. But better this way than the other way round!
I am happy that you can do it that way. Keep swimming! It really does get better!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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mamabear
We did it on our own for 3.5 years. Randomly in the am just said “ please go pee and hop on the scale”. Always first thing when she got up in a T-shirt and undies. 

Had her stand backwards. You can get scales that have an app for your phone so they don’t see it. 

We never said anything. Just “ thank you”. No reaction positive or negative.  It was our job to keep on top of things. It just became normalized. Until one day I said it was her choice to turn around or not and she didn’t. She was far enough into recovery to not have it effect her. 
Persistent, consistent vigilance!
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Lildil
Thank you every one for your insights, I love you all and I'm so grateful for this forum it really helps to know that we are not alone in this. 
School just ended and my son received the 7th grade student of the year, I am so happy and proud yet on the other hand the over achiever, perfectionist part of the illness makes me worry and frankly a little mad. I guess since we took all sports away from him he just pushed harder in everything else.
Bless you all, thinking of you this summer.
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sk8r31
Hope that the summer goes as smoothly as it can Lildil.  Glad you have a plan in place with the school counselor for impartial weigh-ins.  Your school counselor sounds amazing!
Gosh, those perfectionistic tendencies can be strong, can't they?  I hope that over the summer your boy can take part in activities that are not measured...perhaps volunteering with animals or visiting with seniors, or any other opportunity that you think might be 'up his alley' and would provide feelings of self-worth that are not measurable by grades or test results. 
Warmly,
sk8r31
It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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