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Two and a half years ago, in the midst of my despair and conviction that our battle with my daughters ED was a losing one, Charlotte swooped in and helped me "get a grip". I lost track of how many times I sat in car parks talking on the phone to her, while she dried my tears from afar and persuaded me that I could do this, there was a way through, and we would prevail.
I came to love Charlotte before I ever met her.
Today, I know she'd sigh at my tears ( she always sighed as she handed me tissues), but I'll cry nonetheless. For the loss, the waste and her family - who should have had Charlotte with them for so many more years.
Most of all though, I'll be thankful for having known her and for her enormous influence in helping to get my girl well again. I owe Charlotte more than she'll ever know. Her legacy is huge and somewhere, her star will be very bright.
Sue Shepherd
I'm full of sadness and tears are flowing.  Thank you Charlotte for all your words of support and wisdom and frankness like no other could give!
We will never stop this fight and I agree with anotherbite that Charlotte lives on in our recovering/fighting kids!

I am grateful and thankful to have come on this forum and be directed by Charlotte in how to save my daughter.   She was a mentor, leader and Army General!  She was an Angel on this earth.

I too will light a candle.
As a reader but not a poster I'm not known on the forum but Charlottes words have helped me on so many occasions. Charlotte gave hope that recovery is possible and offered a guiding light at a time of much darkness. An incredibly special woman who will be missed not only by those fortunate enough to know her in person but by a global community, many of which have loved ones alive today as a result of Charlottes words of encouragement and vast amounts of top ED knowledge. As Amomma posted, let's make good of this awfully sad news and get those Charlottes Helix donations rocketing. RIP Charlotte xxx
Charlotte was the first member to welcome me on ATDT.
' What can we do for you right now?' she asked.
I cried, then started listening to her advice.
Without a doubt she has helped save my Ds life, and today, like the rest of the ATDT community, her family and friends, I am incredibly sad.
Still at work, but popped into the chapel for a cry.
If her family happen to read this, I wish them strength and love to get through the coming difficult times.
They can be immensly proud of their mum, wife, sister etc.

What I feel we need to do now, as a community, is to carry on her good work.
We all have our own styles,and there will never be another Charlotte and she will never be forgotten.
But she would want us to carry on supporting our members and beyond. To carry on throwing huge pants around.
To carry on promoting the Helix.

Proud to have known you, Charlotte.
Proud to call you a friend.

Purple 
Where there's a will there's a way.
I am so  grateful for Charlotte's wisdom and humor on this site.  She was indeed a very special woman.
Yes, get those donations soaring!!!! Here is the link: https://www.charlotteshelix.net/donate-to-the-helix.html
Bev Mattocks, mother of 24-year old male DX with RAN 2009, now recovered. Joined this forum in 2010 - it was a lifesaver.
Today I resolve myself to doing my part to pick up every starfish that comes in my path and tossing it back in the sea.  
Charlotte, I didn't know you or interact with you personally, but I have read the amazing support and encouragement that you gave to countless others.  Your presence will be missed but your legacy will serve as a shining example for years to come.  Thank you for blessing this Earth.  May you continue to shine down on us from heaven.

Charlotte was the first person to respond to my plea for help on October 1st 2011.

She helped me to see I could help my Anorexic daughter to recover. Charlotte gave me the strength and confidence to make it happen.

I met her in person and she is truly inspirational.

Charlotte is an Angel.

Love you Charlotte xxxxxxx


You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore
Christopher Columbus
Dear Charlotte - you have been instrumental in keeping me focused on what is most important.
Keeping those Big Girl Pants on - and standing firm to any clinician who showed they did not know my D.

I am hoping you rest in peace as I know how much you suffered.  You deserve this peace and rest.
And your spirit will live on in all of us.
WenWinning (formerly wenlow) - a Mom who has learned patience, determination, empathy, and inner strength to help her young adult daughter gain full remission after over a decade of illness and clinician set inaccurate weights
I am so sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are with her family.

May Charlotte rest in peace and find her place in heaven among the other Angels.

Cathy V.
Southern California
I support and followed Amoma's call to action and just offered my gift in memory of Charlotte.  She had a beautiful spirit here, and she was such a courageous advocate for families and kids.  

So, get your big girl pants on and donate in her memory to Charlotte's Helix:  https://feast-ed.site-ym.com/donations/

We must continue her important work...
mom to teen daughter in remission/recovery; treatment included UCSD's multi-family program and FBT with EXRP & ACT
Thank you, Marcella, for posting this sad news. I, too, feel a kinship to Charlotte. Our d's are the same age, diagnosed in the same time period, and she was an inspiration to me in the dark early days of this journey.

My thoughts and prayers are with her family. Charlotte, you have made a difference in many lives. May you rest in peace.
1997mom Ontario, Canada
Aussie condolences on Charlottes passing
ED Dad
The world has lost someone who was truly kind. She was tireless in throwing back those starfish. She will be missed.
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Heartbroken...praying for her family and giving thanks for her life.
Weight restored/Phase II
Such sad news, thank's for everything Charlotte, I'll never forget how you saved our daughter's life, and ours. Our thought's are with Charlottes' family and friends.
Heartbreaking for her family and for so many, but a relief to know that her physical suffering is over. 

Her words, actions and spirit will live on through all of us who have been touched by her - she truly was amazing.   The ed community in particular have been blessed by all that she was, all that she did and all that she gave. 

My condolences go out to her family and all those closest to her.

Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Theodore Roosevelt.
Dear Charlotte, "as a bell rings, another Angel has her wings" (It's a beautiful life).  Deepest sympathies to Charlotte's family and friends
All around the world people weep for the loss of Charlotte. I weep. I am very sad. What a privilege to have known her. I send many hugs to all those on this forum who loved her. Rest in peace darling woman.
So sad.  She was a beautiful woman!  God Bless her!

I will miss Charlotte.
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
I confess I have been lurking on the site for several months mainly for the purpose of seeing if Charlotte has left any posts, hoping that she was feeling well enough to post and that there would be a different ending to her story.  

What a great woman and so lucky we were to have her BIG heart, sensible wisdom and good humor for these past few years.  I do feel the big girl pants will live on through the life of ATDT as they really are up to magic plate status!  And they seem to be useful for more than just re-feeding, I find I need to get mine out and put them on for many occasions.  She will be so missed as a friend and supporter to many here.  

We are fortunate that much of the wisdom is here to stay in her threads.  It would be wonderful to have a section in the hall of fame with some of her most memorable posts and then when a new family arrives in the middle of the night, they can have a cup of tea with Charlotte…..
I haven't visited ATDT in a long time -- our family's battle with AN becomes a smaller and smaller dot in the rear view mirror -- but I have to say something about Charlotte. She was an amazing advocate for parents. Her humor, dogged pursuit of truth, her smile, her big girl panties have inspired a generation of parents and their children. Thank you, Charlotte.  Thank you for living, for being you, for inspiring, fighting, crying, laughing and loving. Forever in my mind and heart.
I never met Charlotte, but she was the first to offer a hand of friendship on th ATDT forum. When this became my saviour, Charlotte was always there to offer advice and support. Even during the past 12 months or so which have been particularly awful for her, she still found time to help others, selflessly.

For someone to offer that kind of friendship to so many around the world is amazing.

My love go to her husband, daughters, dad and brothers. I am glad that you were all able to spend the last few weeks with Charlotte, and that she was able to be at home with those she loved.

There will never be another Charlotte.

All we can do, is support her and continue her amazing work, by raising as much money for the Charlottes helix project.

God bless Charlotte xx
In this for the long haul .....
Mum to 14 year old D diagnosed with AN in May 2012 aged 12
Another candle is burning for Charlotte. She was such a gift to those who needed her.  Her light shines far across the world, and will continue to shine.