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pipes2406
I haven't posted in a while as we've been busy keeping our heads above water since d's discharge from IP in January. D has been maintaining weight well and is really motivated to recover. However, her anxiety levels are very high , despite having her meds increased. She has been trying to reintegrate into school and keeps challenging herself but she's finding it very difficult and is constantly needing to sleep. Doctor has tested bloods and iron levels are good, all other physical obs are really good.

I know I've seen someone here talk about books they've read which have been really helpful. Has anyone got any suggestions?

Thanks
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Torie
Tamar Chansky's book is recommended by many here.  xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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pipes2406
Thanks Torie
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FaithKeepsMeGoing
The book by Tamar Chansky is for helping your child overcome anxiety, is that correct?  Do you know of any resources for adults or young adults?  I looked at Chansky's Help Yourself to Overcome Anxiety, and the reviews weren't wonderful.

The Irish tell the story of a man who arrives at the gates of Heaven and asks to be let in.  St. Peter says, “Of course. Show us your scars.”  But the man replies, “I have no scars.”   St. Peter shakes his head and says, “What a pity. Was there nothing worth fighting for?”

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Torie
Yes, that's the one.  Some here have said it helps even for parents of older anxiety sufferers.

You might want to look on the thread I started fairly recently called Anxiety.  Someone suggested a different book there.  xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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FaithKeepsMeGoing
Thanks, Torie.  The book Overcoming Perfectionism mentioned on that thread sounds intriguing, as that is a big component of my daughter's anxiety.  Unfortunately, it appears to be out of print.  I'll look at Chansky's book for parents;  it's available at our library.

The Irish tell the story of a man who arrives at the gates of Heaven and asks to be let in.  St. Peter says, “Of course. Show us your scars.”  But the man replies, “I have no scars.”   St. Peter shakes his head and says, “What a pity. Was there nothing worth fighting for?”

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Francie
Here is another book that was recommended re: anxiety. it's called

Parenting Your Anxious Child with Mindfulness and Acceptance

https://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Anxious-Child-Mindfulness-Acceptance/dp/1572245794 

Francie

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sk8r31
I just learned recently about a 'fidget' toy that was recommended to my d, who still has anxiety that becomes more pronounced around exam time, transitions, etc.

Have just ordered it, so will see what d thinks...but it does seem to be a useful item to keep in one's arsenal of tips and strategies to manage anxiety.  In d's case, she also uses meds....and has found meditation apps to be useful as well during times of increased anxiety.

There are all kinds of 'knock offs' and similar items, but this is what the fidget cube looks like.

It is good to not only hope to be successful, but to expect it and accept it--Maya Angelou
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hopefulmama
My 15 year old son does not have an ED and has never struggled with anxiety or ADHD. He just likes to be active and move around.  He has a couple of different fidget things like that that he finds very helpful when he studies.  He finds that he can concentrate for longer blocks of time while studying when he is using one of these fidget gizmos. 
Enjoying my 23 year-old daughter's achievement of active recovery that was made possible by the resources and education I found on this forum.

Don't give up hope!
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