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mumto3
Older D has lost 2 more pounds...  hope we can turn this around.

Oh and younger D has grown again - at least 1.5 inches, if not 2...
worried mom
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K63
Hi mumto3, thinking of you , it's good that you can see the signs and hopefully can turn this around you have done it before, can you take back responsibility of food while d is home from college and follow up with a weekly dietician appointment when she goes back to college. Can you do the same with younger d . I can't imagine how difficult it is for you to keep it all together with all that going on . Stay strong you can do this.
Daughter started restricting in February 2014, tried re feeding at home hospital admission 4 1/2 months weight restored started restricting post discharge, back on meal plan full supervision weight restored april 2016. Starting to hand back responsibility for meals it's scary. 
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mumto3
So had a conversation with older D this weekend and she basically said she decided it was silly to not enjoy eating food.  Her state seems good - she texts me before every weekend to see what dessert she can bring home from the bakery.  Some things are hard for her - it is triggering to have to watch her sister struggle but I see her a lot more relaxed around food and even enjoying it.  She eats Ben and Jerry's every night and it has been years since she ate ice cream.  She varies her breakfast cereal when she only ate Life cereal or oatmeal.  She is asking for other things like green peppers and different cheeses to put in her omelettes.

Other D... still struggling at low end of weight range.  Still complaining but asked if she could have nuts with dinner instead of chips - she had been refusing nuts lately but I reminded her they were a good source of nutrition.  She complained about Easter dinner (my mom made ham and coq au vin and my sister asked me to bring stuffed shells) but she ate two shells without complaint during Easter dinner (she complained about it a lot beforehand [rolleyes]).

Son - has become a very slow eater, ugh - but I sit with him at dinner table (and breakfast and lunch) until he finishes.  Trying to remember to feed him snacks.  He is not avoiding any foods so I have taken to giving him a breakfast smoothie.  He's always been on the thin side - but I'm going to try an up his weight a bit...  Still think he might be in response to the trauma of watching his sisters...

Life goes on, doesn't it?
worried mom
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deenl
My God, you are doing sterling work. Take a bow! [thumb]

It is great to hear that there is some progress and I know you are going to keep it up. Our son was a slow eater (2hrs for some meals). We now do it with a timer for 30mins and it works well. Anyway you could work towards something like that with son, esp if there is something nice/fun to do afterwards? I know it's easier said than done.

Warm wishes,
D
2015 12yo son restricting but no body image issues, no fat phobia; lost weight IP! Oct 2015 home, no progress. Medical hosp to kick start recovery Feb 2016. Slowly gaining at home, seeing signs of our real kid.

May 2017 Hovering around WR. Mood great, mostly. Summer 2017 Happy, first trip away in years, food variety, begin socialising. Sept 2017, back to school FT first time in 2 years. 2018 growing so fast hard to keep pace with weight. 2020 Off to university, healthy and happy.
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strugglingthrough
Momto3
Sounds like you are doing an amazing job. How did you get your D to a healthy weight?

Our D is now at 58kg/128ilbs and on pause. Only just below medics healthy weight for her so they are happy for her to pause while she gets used to it.

Like your D she is 5'8" and historically was nearer to 75th centile on growth charts.

Medics reluctant (understatement) to discuss whether their weight range is reasonable - in fact we don't think D should have been told a weight range as she has latched on to the bottom of the range as a maximum.
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