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There's always something to worry about with Anna!
O.k., so I managed to get one of my Ds into IPclinic and she is well looked after.
Then after waiting for 3 and a half weeks for a hospital bed to come up for my other D, we learnt on Thursday that one has come up and she is expected to go in on Tuesday. She has agreed to do so. Great!
So far so good....
Except now I am worried sick because she has suddenly decided to start eating non-stop! She is probably eating about 2000 calories a day! She increased slightly three weeks ago when her sister went in, but since she heard about her own hospitalisation, whether from fear or because she wanted "to prove to them" that she can do it, I don't know. Although I am over the moon that she is suddenly eating all the foods that she has not eaten for over three years, I am worried sick about refeeding syndrome!
It's the weekend, I can't access a GP, I don't know if they would see us in A&E.
Should I drive her to the hospital where she will be an inpatient to get a blood test? Will that just make her panic and refuse to go in?
She is due to go in on Tuesday. Should I wait until then? Should I stop her eating all her favourite foods?
Can anyone please advise me?
P. P.
Sorry that things are so confusing at the moment. We are not qualified here to give you medical advice, but I agree you are right to be concerned. Given your D is going in on Tuesday could your ring them and ask for advice? 

If you cannot get any advice from the units and your D is binging on foods, especially large amounts of carbohydrates which she has not eaten for a long time a trip to A&E would be a good idea.  I would take some written information about re-feeding syndrome to explain why you are so concerned. She will need blood tests and possibly phosphate supplements, potassium supplements and magnesium. This excellent full article explains it well, explains risk factors for refeeding syndrome, which I suspect your daughter fulfills and includes links the NICE (UK) guidelines as well. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2654033/
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Mostly recovered 10 years later.  Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Can you ring the unit where your D will be going? They will be able to advise you. Or failing that call 111 and see if they can advise? Or ring your A&E and ask for the duty Consultant?

Well done for getting beds for both girls! It is difficult enough to get one bed here in the UK, you must be Supermum!!!

I hope Tuesday's admission goes smoothly, so that you can have some YOU time for a while and recover too. x
UK - South East

19 yo D

Dx AN Feb 2015 (Aged 15). Pre-existing low self-esteen and high anxiety. 

2015: 3 x medical hospital admissions. 1 month in IP which she self discharged from [eek].
2016: 3 x hospital admissions. 
2017: CAMHS CBT. WR, dropped out of 2 different colleges and started an apprenticeship.  Started having grand mal seizures and was diagnosed with epilepsy in Nov 2017. Sacked from job because of this.  Tribunal ensued.
2018 - doing a Psychology degree through Open University and working in retail to pay her way in life. Relapses with eating disorder in June 18 and Nov 18 😢. 

On particularly rough days when I am sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. [Author Unknown]
Not sure if this advice will be too belated to be of possible interest, and also you probably already thought about this. But I'd be careful not to let your d hear that you're worried because she's eating "so much." Something like, "You're in such danger that you're going IP on Tuesday so I want to be sure you're safe at home this weekend" might work. Please keep us posted. xx

"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP