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Ellenc1
Thanks everyone, well yesterday’s apart our best so far, d was upset and so scared beforehand, (me too!!) but they were really pleased, they advised not to push fear foods yet, and to give her what I know she will eat, as long as she is getting all her food groups everyday. She didn’t want to know her weight, but they wanted her to know she had gained, which she had really mixed emotions about. She said that she herself was happy but ED was not. They didn’t feel the need to up the meal plan at this stage( we are on number 2 out of 3) I came out feeling a huge sense of relief, although now my anxiety is wandering how much she gained, was it only because of the fact she had not long eaten lunch!! I just want to feel positive but have these nagging thoughts constantly!!!!!
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Mcmum
Could you phone up for the weight? My camhs team don't tell my son but they do tell us so we know where we are at. It's reassuring for us. Glad it went smoothly but I would give them a call. It shouldn't be a secret from you.
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Ellenc1
Yes Mcmum, I think I might. I didn’t want to find out yesterday, as I know if d knew that I knew she would end up keeping in about it and want me to tell her, and I honestly believe her when she says she doesn’t want to know. Will phone them later while she’s at school😊
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Ocras68
Hi Ellenc

I saw on Faddywrite’s thread about fear foods that your daughter has put on 4.5kg in 8 weeks! I didn’t want to hijack that thread, but just wanted to say I’m so happy for you about how far you’ve come. My 14 year old d has made great progress too and like you say about your d, I know she didn’t have it as tough as many people here, but it’s still hard and every little victory counts.

Xx
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Mcmum
Yes, you've done really well. Well done to you too ocra68. How is the mood in the house both of you? Is it getting any easier??
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ljsmum12
Thank you so much everybody. We are only a month into refeeding and after a horrific meltdown over some yoghurt added to a smoothie, finding this forum has been a godsend. I have discovered that when your child has AN, after a while the well meaning texts/support drop away. People don't do this intentionally, I know, lives are busy, but our battle with AN continues, and it's exhausting. I am looking forward to being part of this support group. We are doing this, one meal at a time.
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Ocras68
Hi Mcmum
Things are better than I ever would have thought possible. We were lucky and I am very aware of that when I see how some here are suffering. My daughter didn’t purge or physically fight us at mealtimes etc. Of course, she lied about what she ate and threw food in the bin and all that before she was diagnosed, but the minute I read Eva Musby we launched into the magic plate, 3 meals and 3 snacks routine relentlessly every single day. D is an early riser - I haven’t had a sleep-in in six months (h is great but d prefers when I feed her). I took advantage of every little hint in code that she dropped “So Mum, if I didn’t eat what you gave me, you’d just make me, wouldn’t you?” “Yes, I would. I’m in charge now.” She’s almost weight restored and her brain is already healing. We still have a long way to go in getting rid of ED thoughts, but her panic attacks have disappeared, anxiety has eased massively, her true personality is returning and we are full of hope.
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Mcmum
That's really good news. I think we're in a similar position and you're right, it's clear from reading on here that the whole experience can be much more gruelling in so many ways for so many others.
Great to see their real selves shine through. Keep up the good work and enjoy getting your daughter back xx
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ValentinaGermania
Ocras68 wrote:
Hi Mcmum
Things are better than I ever would have thought possible. We were lucky and I am very aware of that when I see how some here are suffering. My daughter didn’t purge or physically fight us at mealtimes etc. Of course, she lied about what she ate and threw food in the bin and all that before she was diagnosed, but the minute I read Eva Musby we launched into the magic plate, 3 meals and 3 snacks routine relentlessly every single day. D is an early riser - I haven’t had a sleep-in in six months (h is great but d prefers when I feed her). I took advantage of every little hint in code that she dropped “So Mum, if I didn’t eat what you gave me, you’d just make me, wouldn’t you?” “Yes, I would. I’m in charge now.” She’s almost weight restored and her brain is already healing. We still have a long way to go in getting rid of ED thoughts, but her panic attacks have disappeared, anxiety has eased massively, her true personality is returning and we are full of hope.


Ocras68,
that sounds wonderful, you really rock it!!!
Keep on swimming, this tunnel has an end! You are doing great!
Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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debra18
I also had to get up with my daughter at 530 every morning even on the weekends . Now she sleeps until 7.
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Ocras68
Oh my gosh Debra, that’s practically the middle of the night!
Mcmum and Tina, thank you. I love reading your posts - Mcmum still going through it all (our children are different ages but our stories seem similar) and Tina out the other side with oodles of wisdom. Now I’m feeling bad because I’ve somewhat hijacked Ellenc’s thread. How are you doing, Ellenc?
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Torie
ljsmum12 wrote:
Thank you so much everybody. We are only a month into refeeding and after a horrific meltdown over some yoghurt added to a smoothie, finding this forum has been a godsend. I have discovered that when your child has AN, after a while the well meaning texts/support drop away. People don't do this intentionally, I know, lives are busy, but our battle with AN continues, and it's exhausting. I am looking forward to being part of this support group. We are doing this, one meal at a time.


Hi ljsmum, and welcome.  You might want to start your own thread here.

It's really great that you found us so soon.  Please tell us a little more about your journey. xx

-Torie
"We are angels of hope, of healing, and of light. Darkness flees from us." -YP 
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Ellenc1
Ocras68, i thought I replied yesterday but it seems to have disappeared! 😂 no worries about posting on my thread, I love to read about how everybody is doing. We’re doing really well at the moment, last night as I was preparing tea, mashed potato fish and veg(very bland!) d turned to me and said “ I could really do with some curry sauce and chips from the chip shop’ well needless to say, the mash got put on hold and off we went to the chippy. She ate a whole portion of chips and curry sauce! A month ago there would of been no way on earth she would of even thought of having that. We’ve had steady weight gain, and she just seems in a much better place, we still have days where her mood is very low and she is struggling with anxiety pretty badly at the moment, we’re seeing CAMHS today, and I think that’s something we need to discuss.xxx
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ValentinaGermania
Hi Ellenc1,
yeah for the chips!!! [thumb]
Where is your gold star moment post??? That is definitivly worth one!

Tina72
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
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Ocras68
Yay and triple gold star moments for the chips and curry sauce! That is fantastic!

I’m sorry to hear your daughter is struggling with anxiety. It’s so awful to see them suffer. My daughter’s anxiety went down a lot as her weight went up but it sounds like that’s not necessarily working in your case. Hope your CAMHS meeting was of some help.

Xx

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