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Yesterday whilst at the supermarket, the lady ahead of me getting some bread/rolls commented how her son had started eating "healthy" and now wants to eat wholemeal/multi-grain bread/rolls instead of white, and of course the hair on the back of my neck stood up. I asked her how old he was (16) and she also mentioned he had started eating veggies which he would never eat a few weeks ago. I decided to put my 2 cents worth in because as most of you know our ED kids seem start with the "eating healthy" regime before spiraling down the ED rabbit hole. I recommended she keep an eye on him and if he started to drop more foods to get help, sooner rather than later, she politely thanked me and we parted company.
I just hope I was right to speak up.

It is always hard Lisa. The good thing is, being a stranger, you won't know if she found it annoying or you were that fantastic kind stranger who put her on track early with her son who turned  out to have ED. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13.5. Weight restored July 2012. Relapse and now clawing our way back. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
There is no harm in trying to educate people.  I think you did the right thing.  She may have found you annoying "in the moment" but if her son really is dangling on the edge of the rabbit hole, she will thank you (silently) later.  
D, age 18, first diagnosed March 20, 2013, RAN, at age 13 Hospitalized 3 weeks for medical stability. FBT at home since.  UCSD Multi-family Intensive June 2015. We've arrived on the other side.  :-)  D at college and doing great!
If you gave her reason to pause and make sure her son eats enough food at every meal - you have done the right thing.

Here's the thing, if he doesn't have the brain disorder then no worries but if he does you have given her a head start on helping her son.

I wish you had been in my grocery store when my son was just starting to restrict [smile]
Son diagnosed @ 12.5 yrs old with Severe RAN 2/11. Co-morbids - anxiety, Active restriction for 3 months. He stopped eating completely 2x. He needed immediate, aggressive treatment from a provider who specialized in eating disorders, adolescents and males. We got that at Kartini Clinic. WR since 5/11. 2017 getting ready to graduate slipping lost 8lbs. Fighting our way back.