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A post on my daughter business face book page!!

A very very long way from relapse in 2010 where numbers drove so much and the number she was at age 16 was still the number required at age 21, 22, 23 & 24 but now here I think we are where she is recovered at age approching 30!

《W E I G H T - S C A L E S 》
Weight gain and pregnancy go hand in hand. It is unavoidable so when I was being weighed more than I have been in years I thought I would be fine with it. At first I was but as the gain got quicker, I began to compare my weight gain to other women's pregnancy gain. Began to check and make sure I was right on the lowest point of the weight gain chart. Was disappointed if other areas of my body aside from my belly grew. It was then I realised, numbers have to go! So as I pushed in to second trimenster I decided to start blind weighing and it was honestly the best decision I made. Since not knowing the numbers I just feel like my normal self, just growing a baby! Without the number I felt free to enjoy pregnancy, to enjoy growing my bump and to fully love my body without any negative self talk. Scales, numbers and measurements are good to check in with, but they don't need a regular place in your life especially when all they bring is negative emotions and self talk. If you feel like stepping on the scales is a negative experience give it the boot ... life is too short to be inflicting unhappiness on ourselves!

ED Dad
What a great post, thanks so much for sharing!

My life is also better without a scale and I also requested to be blind weighed by my dr when I went for a check up.

This post is so full of great insights, a true gold star post.

Enjoy grandparenting 😊
D became obsessed with exercise at age 9 and started eating 'healthy' at age 9.5. Restricting couple of months later. IP for 2 weeks at age 10. Slowly refed for months on Ensures alone, followed by swap over with food at a snails pace. WR after a year at age 11 in March 2017. View my recipes on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKLW6A6sDO3ZDq8npNm8_ww
Wonderful that your daughter is enjoying her pregnancy and finding strategies to deal with those ongoing anxieties. Knowing how to deal with is part of recovering. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
That is so great that she could help herself with the idea of blind weighing!
That is the best relapse prevention when they have learned what those tricky situations are and how to get out of it.
Congratulations! I wish you both all the best!
Keep feeding. There is light at the end of the tunnel.
Bumping this up for those talking about weight and scales. Our D's illness started at at around age 13 first diagnosed at 16, relapsed at around 21. I found FEAST & ATDT about 3 years after her relapse  D is now 30 with a healthy baby boy!
ED Dad
Thank you for posting this!  Gives me (and I suspect, many others) so much hope [smile]