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Hi all, 
D recently had a relapse and lost some weight so we are revamping supervision with meals, weight monitoring, etc.Today was weigh day, and she has gained 1.2 lbs in about 3 days. She's on a meal plan of around 2100-2500 calories, but we were hoping to up to 3000. With the rapid weight gain, should we stay where we are or just increase? She is of course very upset. 

Additionally, does anyone know any resources that might be helpful to her at this time? She misses her supportive friends 🙁
Welcome to the forum. 
It is good to see that you have some weight gain, and getting more in. It is normal for them to gain when there first is an increase in intake but as their metabolism increases in response that can slow down and even lead to a loss. 3000 is a good starting point to aim for so I would keep going there and weather her anxiety. 

There is not a lot that can be done to make her feel more comfortable. Slow gain drags out the torture, and any gain is difficult. I would encourage distractions rather than looking at a resource she can read. When their brains are deep in the ED trying to convince them that they need treatment and weight gain is a hopeless task. Is she using facetime, skype, zoom or other strategies to connect weight others. The good old fashioned phone can work as well if she is struggling with being seen. Games, crafts?
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.
Thank you for this. We will continue to push her.
She's been facetiming friends daily which helps. Games are a great idea too!
i bought some painting by numbers kits off amazon - they are rather engrossing and quite easy so good for distraction.
also, look for the dodo videos on facebook - lots of cute dogs and cats being rescued which feels rather heartwarming.
Hi Lovingavocados21,

Can your d. be weighed blindly so that she does't know her weight? We found that helpful at times. If she doesn't know what she weighs she may experience less anxiety.