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13 YO D is doing really well.  She just had her annual check up and has grown an inch in 6 months, weight is up to 108.  Her BMI is 21.66, and she's looking very solid.  Most ED eating behaviors are gone and she's in a really good mood lately (even with COVID).

My question is about her menses.  She first got her period back in Nov 2019 for the very first time and then had it for 3 months straight, until Jan 2020 (she had been weight restored for a good 6-8 months).  Then it completely stopped and has not returned (note she was also at a lower weight when she first got it). I asked several specialists about this and they have told me not to worry.  That it's normal for someone who's in recovery to have a very irregular period and it will come back eventually.  I was ok with this answer 3 months ago, but we are now going on 7 months with nothing.  I have let her return to her sport as she's met all the criteria and requirements we gave her in order to return to play.  My concern is that perhaps she's too active and/or needs to gain more weight?  I do realize that she needs to keep gaining into her 20's and she has been gaining slowly now every month.  Her GP did some blood work to see if anything is off and we are now just waiting for the results, but I have suspicion that everything will come back normal.  

Any advise or thoughts would be much appreciated.  For those of you in the US, Happy 4th!!
Sometimes the weight needs to go up more than you thought. Push the weight is one option. Lab work can be helpful as well. Just to ensure no other cause of secondary amennorhea than ED. 
When within yourself you find the road, the right road will open.  (Dejan Stojanovic)

Food+more food+time+love+good professional help+ATDT+no exercise+ state not just weight+/- the "right" medicine= healing---> recovery(--->life without ED)
Six months at a good weight without a period is around the time to start wondering what is happening. Since your D is only 13 and got sick within a few months of her period starting, it is important to know that it can take a few years for young girls to get more regular cycles, and there can be nothing wrong. 

If her bloods are entirely normal (so long as the GP has done the right tests) then her period will be coming back soon. They need to also check on some other causes of missing periods. 
Her exercise could be impacting as well, especially if she is very active. 
D diagnosed restrictive AN June 2010 age 13. Initially weight restored 2012. Relapse and continuously edging towards recovery. Treatment: multiple hospitalisations and individual and family therapy.